The Women’s Room follows Mira through her repressive childhood and marriage, through her devastating divorce, and finally through her years as an English graduate student as she, for the first time, acquires control over her own life. As a child, Mira is restricted by her parents’ attempts to mold her into a young lady. Her mother declares that legs should be crossed only at the ankles and that girls do not engage in rough play. Even though Mira is young, she imagines that the edicts are “strangling her, stifling her.”
As a college student, Mira’s fear of pregnancy and of the consequent loss of freedom develops into a fear of sex. Thus she avoids intimate relationships. Her open-mindedness and her independence, however, are taken by her male colleagues as signs of sexual permissiveness. After a night of drinking and dancing, she is almost raped by a group of her friends. The experience confirms that a woman can never be as free as a man but must always be on guard. Angry that she needs protection and angry that men think they have a right to her body, she withdraws into herself.
When she meets Norm through family friends, she is impressed with his acceptance of her attitude toward sex. Sensing that as long as she is single she will be a target for aggressive male behavior, she accepts his offer of marriage for the protection it will provide. At her wedding, however, she weeps over the loss of her freedom, and indeed her married life becomes more restricted. She forgoes her college education to support Norm while he attends medical school. She accepts a low-paying, unchallenging job because he will not allow her to commute to New York City, where the better jobs and corresponding higher wages are. She is reliant upon her friends to take her grocery shopping because he will not teach her how to drive. Finally, when she becomes pregnant, she is truly tied to the house.
Married life for Mira is a constant round of finishing household chores and of caring for her two sons. Norm is absent frequently, his time spent at the hospital or at his mother’s house, where he is undisturbed by the noise of his children. If not for the other neighborhood women, young mothers like Mira, her life would be unbearable. These...
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