The Going Summary

“The Going,” by the English novelist and poet Thomas Hardy (1840-1928), describes the speaker’s reaction to the sudden, unexpected death of a loved one, apparently his wife. The poem clearly reflects Hardy’s devastation at the death of his own wife, Emma, to whom he had been married for many years. Although the relationship between them had become very strained, at her death Hardy nevertheless felt great grief and wrote a number of poems lamenting her passing and the loss of their early closeness. However, one need not know these biographical details to appreciate “The Going”; the poem makes perfect sense without such specific knowledge.

As the poem opens, the speaker is addressing his dead wife—who, of course, cannot hear him, or who at least cannot respond. This fact already helps set the tone of the work, which emphasizes feelings of futility. The wife’s death is described as quickly as it apparently occurred; the announcement of it, in line 4, catches us as much by surprise as it seems to have caught the speaker. Ironically, the wife died not during the darkness of the night (as might have seemed appropriate) but just after the start of a new day. The speaker seems stunned by the sudden loss, yet his feelings are ones to which anyone can relate. Loss of loved ones—especially through death—is a universal experience. Thus, even though Hardy was motivated to write by his own loss in particular, this poem speaks for and to anyone who has ever been, or ever will be, similarly surprised.

So stunned is the speaker that in stanza two his tone is almost accusatory—as if his mate should have warned him of an impending death she herself did not expect and could not anticipate. Such irrationality, of course, is common among the grieving: anger is one of the first and most automatic responses to any severe loss. Thus Hardy’s depiction of the speaker’s annoyance is psychologically accurate and convincing, while the image of “morning harden[ing] upon the wall” (11) is a memorably vivid way of suggesting the sense that time has stopped—that the moment of her death struck the speaker as crucial, unforgettable, and highly ironic. Time in general, and daylight in particular, seemed, to him, to have halted when she died. For him, at least, her passing “altered all” (14).

The somewhat accusatory tone continues in stanza three, although the very fact of that tone suggests a...