Human beings are gregarious. We need that interaction with someone else. The question is how do make those relationships? Karol Ladd, author of The Power of a Positive Woman, believes forming strong friendships goes back to what ourgrandmother taught us: 'If you want to have friends, you must show yourself friendly.'"
Becoming friends and staying friends requires several ingredients. First, a person must be able to appreciate the differences in others. Everyone is different with her own set of talents and faults. Acceptance without jealousy and criticism opens the door for a variety of friendships.
Secondly, loyalty and trust are traits necessary to be a friend. George Washington wisely stated:
Be courteous to all, but intimate with few; and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow growth...
Trustworthiness involves sharing deep intimacies and knowing that they will go no further; it is a rare quality.
Taking an interest in others represents a selfless person. Listening to others opens many doors. Everyone wants to feel important and valuable. By paying attention to the other person's likes and dislikes, her interests, and problems, an important connection will be established.
Finally, learn to be a giver not a taker. Smile at people. Share hugs with others. Giving of time and interest indicate "I like you, and I want to know you better." Be positive. This will be the beginning of that special bond: friendship.