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Rules of the Game

by Amy Tan

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How does Meimei trick her mother to let her play in her first tournament?

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Meimei tricks her mother into letting her play in her first chess tournament by using reverse psychology. She pretends not to want to play, claiming that losing under American rules would bring shame to the family. This tactic appeals to her mother's sense of pride and competition, ultimately convincing her to allow Meimei to participate.

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Meimei, otherwise known as Waverly, tricks her mother into letting her play in a chess tournament by appealing to her mother's sense of family honor as well as to her sense of competition.

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A man who watched me play in the park suggested that my mother allow me to play in local chess tournaments. My mother smiled graciously, an answer that meant nothing. I desperately wanted to go, but I bit back my tongue. I knew she would not let me play among strangers. So as we walked home I said in a small voice that I didn’t want to play in the local tournament. They would have American rules. If I lost, I would bring shame on my family.

 “Is shame you fall down nobody push you,” said my mother.

During my first tournament, my mother sat with me...

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in the front row as I waited for my turn.

As you can see, Waverly really wants to play in a tournament, but she knows that her mom probably won't be okay with Waverly playing with strangers. She could just ask, "Ma, can I play in a tournament? I really want to." But she understands that this approach wouldn't work with her strict mother.

Though she's not quite eight years old, Waverly pulls off some serious manipulation of her mom on the way home: she uses reverse psychology, acting like she doesn't want to play because any losses might shame the family. Waverly's mom doesn't like to see her daughter so easily defeated--shame and success are serious, prominent issues in Waverly's mom's mind-- and the next thing readers find out is that both Waverly and her mom are at the tournament!

You might wonder why Waverly brought up the idea of "American rules" when she mentioned the tournament to her mother. Remember that earlier in the story, Waverly's mom had read through the booklet of chess rules and announced to her children that the rules for the game were much like the rules for living successfully in American society. Waverly's mom, then, prides herself on determining what the "rules" are and in using them to achieve social success for her own family. Waverly remembers this, and in the passage above, when she's walking home with her mom, Waverly is basically saying, "We can't follow American rules or succeed at life in America, so I shouldn't play in the tournament," and Waverly's mom is basically responding with "Oh yes we can! Let's sign you up for the tournament!"

So, Waverly was able to appeal to her mom's sense of pride, and to her eagerness to "win" at the game of life in American society.

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In "Rules of the Game," how does MeiMei trick her mother into allowing her to play chess?

This is a good question.  Waverly is an apt pupil from the beginning of the story. She learns from her mother the art of invisible strength.  So, when a person at the park suggests that she play in a tournament, she knows that she should not express interest right away, even though she wants to play.

 She knows that her mother would oppose her playing in a tournament.  So, Waverly uses reverse psychology. On her way home, she says to her mother that she does not want to play in a tournament, because she would probably lose and bring shame on her family. Here is the text:

So as we walked home I said in a small voice that I didn't want to play in the local tournament. They would have American rules. If I lost, I would bring shame on my family. "Is shame you fall down nobody push you," said my mother.

Waverly succeeds in saying the right things and pushing the right buttons. Her mother allows her to play chess. An apt pupil Waverly really is. 

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