Why was Friar Laurence hesitant to marry Romeo and Juliet in Romeo and Juliet?

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When Romeo first visits Friar Laurence's cell in act 2, scene 3, and informs him that he is in love with Juliet and wishes to marry her immediately, Friar Laurence is astonished and reluctant to marry them. Friar Laurence is shocked that Romeo has forgotten about Rosaline so quickly...

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and has suddenly developed strong feelings for Juliet, who is someone he hardly knows. Friar Laurence believes that Romeo is simply infatuated with Juliet and fears that his feelings are not deep or mature enough for marriage. He also believes thatRomeo and Juliet are acting rash and feels that an abrupt marriage is not ideal. Friar Laurence would prefer Romeo and Juliet to allow their romance to blossom before jumping into such a serious commitment. Despite Friar Laurence's fears that Romeo's feelings are not mature enough to merit his marriage to a woman he has just met, Friar Laurence is motivated to marry Romeo and Juliet in hopes of ending the longstanding family feud between the Montagues and Capulets. Friar Laurence hopes that Romeo and Juliet's marriage will appease both families and agrees to secretly marry them in his cell.

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Friar Lawrence was hesitant to marry Romeo and Juliet on several counts.  First, they had only met the night before, and he quickly saw their feelings more of infatuation and lust, as opposed to lasting love.  Second, Romeo had been obsessed with Rosaline as late as the previous afternoon.  No doubt, the friar was hesitant to bless anyone with such fleeting feelings with a permanent commitment to just one person.  Finally, Friar Lawrence was well aware of the feud between the two families, and feared what the marriage would mean in that context.

However, it is exactly the feud that ultimately convinces the friar to go through with the action.  In the end, he hopes that the marriage might help to end the feud and cement a better relationship between the two warring families.

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Why is Lord Capulet reluctant to accept Paris's offer to marry Juliet in Romeo and Juliet?

Lord Capulet is initially reluctant to accept Paris's proposal that he marry Juliet because he feels his daughter is too young to marry. Capulet suggests the proposal of marriage be delayed for two years so Juliet has more time before she becomes a bride.

My child is yet a stranger in the world.
She hath not seen the change of fourteen years.
Let two more summers wither in their pride
Ere we may think her ripe to be a bride (Act II, Scene 1, lines 8-11).
This conversation with Paris puts Lord Capulet in a difficult situation because Paris is related to Prince Escalus, and the Prince of Verona recently threatened Capulet's life if he continues to feud with the Montagues. Making the Prince's relative unhappy is risky for Capulet. 
Interesting, too, is that fact that in this situation the typically headstrong Lord Capulet is more reasonable and will not be easily swayed by Paris. Also, in this scene, Lord Capulet echoes Benvolio's earlier speech as he speaks with Romeo about not rushing into relationships with women. It is certainly ironic, then, when a seemingly impulsive Capulet later insists his daughter Juliet marry Paris soon after Tybalt's death.
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Why is Friar Laurence reluctant to marry Paris to Juliet?

At the beginning of Act IV, Juliet's father has arranged for her to marry Paris.  When Paris goes to see Friar Laurence, though, the Friar does not want to marry Paris to Juliet.

The reason for Laurence's reluctance is because he has already married Juliet to Romeo in a secret ceremony in his cell.  This happened in Act II, Scene 5.

Friar Laurence will go on to help Juliet avoid the wedding by giving her the potion that will make her appear to be dead.  Unfortunately, Romeo will think she really is dead and will commit suicide because of it.

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