What are quotes that show Juliet is more practical than Romeo in Romeo and Juliet?

Most of the exchanges in act II, scene ii of Romeo and Juliet show Juliet asking sensible, practical questions, beginning with Juliet's question "art thou not Romeo and a Montague?" to which Romeo replies with romantic abstractions, dismissing Juliet's reasonable concerns about his safety and hers.

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Until act 3, scene 1 of Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet, when Romeo kills Tybalt and the Prince exiles Romeo from Verona, Juliet is no more practical than Romeo is.

Juliet seems to be more practical than Romeo because she behaves in a much less impetuous and emotional way than Romeo does.

In act 1, scene 3, for example, Juliet's mother, Lady Capulet, tells Juliet that Paris is interested in marrying her, but rather than jump at the opportunity, Juliet takes a much more measured approach.

LADY CAPULET. Speak briefly, can you like of Paris’ love?

JULIET. I'll look to like, if looking liking move;
But no more deep will I endart mine eye
Than your consent gives strength to make it fly. (1.3.100-103)

At about the same time that Juliet is speaking with her mother about Paris, Romeo is lovesick over "the fair Rosaline."

ROMEO. Why, such is love's transgression.
Griefs of mine own lie heavy in my breast...

Love is a smoke rais'd with the fume of sighs;(190)
Being purg'd, a fire sparkling in lovers’ eyes;
Being vex'd, a sea nourish'd with lovers’ tears.
What is it else? A madness most discreet,
A choking gall, and a preserving sweet. (1.1.185-194)

Romeo speaks in rhapsodic, poetic terms, whereas Juliet's language is more straightforward and grounded.

ROMEO. O, she doth teach the torches to burn bright!
It seems she hangs upon the cheek of night
Like a rich jewel in an Ethiop's ear—
Beauty too rich for use, for earth too dear!
So shows a snowy dove trooping with crows
As yonder lady o'er her fellows shows.
The measure done, I'll watch her place of stand
And, touching hers, make blessed my rude hand.
Did my heart love till now? Forswear it, sight!
For I ne'er saw true beauty till this night...

JULIET. You kiss by th’ book. (1.5.46-55, 116)

This doesn't mean, however, that Juliet is more practical than Romeo. Juliet falls in love with Romeo at first sight, as does he fall in love with her.

In act 2, scene 2, the "balcony scene," Juliet seems more practical because she warns Romeo about Tybalt and others; "if they do see thee, they will murder thee" (2.2.74). Could Juliet not simply be thrilled at the prospect of being discovered and enthralled with the romantic notion of her brave lover, Romeo, fighting for her love?

Juliet also express concerns that their relationship might be moving too fast towards marriage.

JULIET. It is too rash, too unadvis'd, too sudden;
Too like the lightning, which doth cease to be(125)
Ere one can say ‘It lightens.’ (2.2.124-126)

It was Juliet, however, who proposed marriage to Romeo, even though she first met and fell in love with him at first sight just a few minutes before.

Juliet is no less caught up in the idea of love and no less fixated on the idea of marriage than is Romeo. Marrying Romeo is hardly practical, in that she prefers Romeo to Paris, who is a wealthier and better-situated young man than Romeo. It's not at all practical for Juliet to marry Romeo and defy her parents, who can disown her and send her penniless into the streets, as her father threatens to do when she refuses to marry Paris in act 3, scene 5.

Juliet changes after Romeo kills Tybalt and is exiled from Verona, but Romeo doesn't change at all. As Romeo and Juliet's situation becomes more desperate, Juliet's strength of character emerges, whereas Romeo simply falls apart emotionally.

Romeo rants and raves about his banishment. He makes a pitiful spectacle of himself by throwing himself on the floor in Friar Laurence's cell and threatening to kill himself. He won't listen to Friar Laurence's advice.

ROMEO. ...Hang up philosophy!
Unless philosophy can make a Juliet,
Displant a town, reverse a prince's doom,
It helps not, it prevails not. Talk no more. (3.3.58-61)

In contrast, Juliet goes to Friar Laurence for practical advice on how to resolve the situation. She, too, threatens to kill herself but only if a solution can't be found.

JULIET. Tell me not, friar, that thou hear'st of this,
Unless thou tell me how I may prevent it.
If in thy wisdom thou canst give no help,
Do thou but call my resolution wise
And with this knife I'll help it presently. (4.1.51-55)

Ultimately, however, both Romeo and Juliet revert to their dramatic, romantic, impractical selves and kill themselves, each for the love of the other.

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Throughout act II, scene ii, Juliet asks simple, direct questions and makes practical objections, which Romeo fails to answer or answers with romantic abstractions. First, she has to ascertain who it is that has broken into her father's orchard and listened to her talking to herself. She asks him a very straightforward question:

Art thou not Romeo and a Montague?

To which Romeo replies:

Neither, fair saint, if either thee dislike.

Exactly the same dynamic is evident in their next exchange. Juliet asks:

How camest thou hither, tell me, and wherefore?
The orchard walls are high and hard to climb,
And the place death, considering who thou art,
If any of my kinsmen find thee here.

This, admittedly, is quite a lot of questions and objections for a short passage. How did you get here? Why did you come here? It is difficult to get into the orchard. If my family finds you, they will kill you.

Romeo's answer is typically irrelevant and impractical:

With love's light wings did I o'er-perch these walls;
For stony limits cannot hold love out,
And what love can do that dares love attempt;
Therefore thy kinsmen are no let to me.

Not only does Romeo fail to answer Juliet's questions, he shows a frivolous disregard for the very situation which is, in fact, to bring about his doom. Romeo will soon be banished for killing Tybalt. If Tybalt were to find him now, in the orchard, one of them would die. If Romeo managed to defend himself, he would have to kill Tybalt in doing so, and the Prince would be much more likely to have him executed, since he would not have been avenging Mercutio in a public place but pursuing Capulet's daughter on Capulet's property. Juliet has the foresight to anticipate such complications, whereas Romeo, apparently, does not. Almost every exchange in this scene demonstrates the same contrast between their characters.

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Juliet shows her practical nature in act 2, scene 2, the famous balcony scene. When Romeo fancifully wants to pledge his undying love to her by "yonder blessed moon," Juliet is pragmatic enough to object, saying the moon is too changeable to reliably swear by. She then tells him not to swear by anything but himself, saying,
Do not swear at all.
Or, if thou wilt, swear by thy gracious self
She also worries—just as the friar will later—that they have fallen in love too quickly, with dangerous "lightning" speed, a practical concern that the impetuous Romeo is completely unworried about.
Further, when the two spend their wedding night together, at first Juliet doesn't want to believe that the songbird they hear is the lark, which heralds dawn, and insists it is the nightingale. But soon, her practical good sense takes over, and she realizes that Romeo must leave at once to be safe. Although she wishes he could stay, she says,
Hie hence! Be gone, away!
It is the lark that sings so out of tune,
Straining harsh discords and unpleasing sharps.
Some say the lark makes sweet division.
This doth not so, for she divideth us.
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Juliet is definitely more practical than Romeo.  She is still young, but she tends to think of the consequences of actions more.

For example, in Act II, Scene 2, when Romeo sneaks into her backyard, she warns him that if he is found he will be killed.  Romeo does not seem to care.

If they do see thee, they will murder thee. (enotes etext p. 40)

In Act III, Scene 5, she also comments to Romeo that she has heard a nightingale, meaning it is daylight now and Romeo needs to leave.  Romeo again dismisses her idea.

Wilt thou be gone? It is not yet near day.

It was the nightingale, and not the lark,

That pierc'd the fearful hollow of thine ear.

Nightly she sings on yon pomegranate tree.

Believe me, love, it was the nightingale.(5) (p. 78)

Also, let it be noted that while Romeo killed himself when he thought Juliet was dead, Juliet actually faked her death first and only killed herself in response to Romeo’s suicide in Act V, Scene 3.

What's here? A cup, clos'd in my true love's hand?

Poison, I see, hath been his timeless end.

O churl! drunk all, and left no friendly drop

To help me after? I will kiss thy lips.

Haply some poison yet doth hang on them(170)

To make me die with a restorative. (p. 111)

 

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