Discussion Topic

Juliet's Evolving Relationships with Parents, Nurse, and Romeo in Romeo and Juliet

Summary:

In Romeo and Juliet, Juliet's relationships with her parents and the Nurse evolve significantly. Initially, Juliet shares a strong bond with the Nurse, akin to a mother-daughter relationship, but this changes after the Nurse advises her to marry Paris following Romeo's banishment, leading to Juliet's sense of betrayal. With her parents, Juliet's relationship is strained; she feels mistrustful and rebellious, particularly when they insist on her marriage to Paris, which culminates in deception and defiance. These evolving dynamics underscore Juliet's isolation and desperation as she navigates her secret marriage to Romeo.

Expert Answers

An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How is Juliet's relationship with the Nurse portrayed in Act 1, Scene 3 of Romeo and Juliet?

The Nurse is presented in act I, scene 3 as a bawdy, talkative, repetitive woman who is coarser than either Juliet or her mother. From the Nurse's speech, we learn that her own daughter died at birth, at which point she was brought in as a wet nurse to the newborn Juliet. A wet nurse is a woman whom an upper-class woman like Lady Capulet would hire to nurse her baby for her, freeing the upper-class woman from having to breastfeed.

The Nurse has been with Juliet ever since birth, so their relationship is long-lasting and intimate. In fact, Lady Capulet at first tries to send the Nurse away so that she can talk to Juliet privately about the possibility of her marrying Paris. She remembers that there is no need to keep any secrets from the Nurse, so she is eventually included in the conversation.

It's clear that while the Nurse is close to Juliet, she is also an irritant. Her coarse humor gets on both Juliet and her mother's nerves, and they both ask her to stop talking.

The Nurse repeats a story from when Juliet was about two, when the little girl fell forward and bumped her head. The Nurse's husband made an off-color joke then about Juliet falling backwards later in life—a reference to having sex—and the innocent child agreed that at some later date she would fall backwards, to the amusement of her caretakers:

“Yea,” quoth he, “Dost thou fall upon thy face?
Thou wilt fall backward when thou hast more wit,
Wilt thou not, Jule?” and, by my holy dame,
The pretty wretch left [stopped] crying and said “ay.”
Juliet is not thrilled with this story, which makes an off-color joke at her expense. Repeating this joke characterizes the Nurse as a worldly but not terribly sensitive character. These are traits that the Nurse will continue to exhibit throughout the play. It will be ironic when the Nurse takes offense at being the butt of Mercutio's bawdy humor, for she has just done the same to Juliet. However, the Nurse is not the kind of thinker who is likely to make that connection.
In sum, the Nurse and Juliet have a very close but also somewhat antagonistic relationship, as Juliet has a much more sensitive personality.
Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How is Juliet's relationship with the Nurse portrayed in Act 1, Scene 3 of Romeo and Juliet?

In Act 1, Scene 3, Juliet and the Nurse are presented as having a very strong bond, even a friendship and mother-daughter relationship. However, it's also very clear that Juliet finds aspects of Nurse's personality irritating.

We especially see the closeness of their bond from the Nurse's perspective in this scene. We learn from one of Nurse's speeches that she lost her own daughter who was the same age as Juliet, which enabled Nurse to become Juliet's wet nurse. Since Nurse took care of Juliet rather than her own daughter, Juliet became like a surrogate daughter to her, as we see in Nurse's lines:

Susan and she (God rest all Christian souls!)
Were of an age. Well, Susan is with God;
She was too good for me. (I.iii.22-24)

The fact that Nurse thinks of Juliet in the same context of her late daughter Susan shows how attached she has become to Juliet. In addition, her exact knowledge of Juliet's age as well as her rambling story about weaning Juliet also show how fond of Juliet she is. Hence, we can see from this one speech that Nurse feels very motherly towards Juliet, which shows us a lot about their relationship.

Juliet, on the other hand, does not say a great deal in this scene that portrays her feelings for or bond with Nurse. However, we do see her feeling embarrassed by her Nurse's weaning story, just like a maturing child often feels embarrassed by his/her parents. We see her embarrassment when Juliet begs Nurse to stop her story. Juliet's embarrassment helps us see their mother-daughter-like bond. In addition, we know that only Nurse raised her as a child and not her own mother. So naturally, Juliet would feel a stronger bond with Nurse than with her own mother. Hence we see from Nurse's speeches and Juliet's reactions to what her Nurse says, that they have a very strong bond and friendship, a lot like a mother-daughter bond.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

What is Juliet's relationship with her parents in act 3, scene 5 of Romeo and Juliet?

Act III, Scene 5 of Romeo and Juliet shows us a few things about Juliet's relationship with her parents.

The first we see is that Juliet does not trust her mother in the same way that she trusts her nurse. We actually see Juliet lie a few times in this scene. First she lies in allowing her mother to continue to believe that she is weeping over Tybalt's death, and then she allows her mother to believe that she wants to seek revenge for Tybalt's death and that she hates Romeo, even that her "heart abhors / To hear him named."

Another thing we see, is that both parents seem genuinely concerned and heartbroken to see Juliet grieving so much. Lady Capulet begs her daughter to "have done" with weeping, and that, "Some grief shows much of love; / But much of grief shows still some want of wit." Likewise, Lord Capulet describes his daughter as a ship sailing in the tempestuous seas of her tears in the line beginning with: "Thou conterfeit'st a bark, a sea, a wind: / For still thy eyes, which I may call the sea..."

The final thing we see is that Lord Capulet expects a relationship from his daughter that is complete obedience. Likewise, her mother expects Juliet to do as he commands, saying when Juliet refuses to marry Paris, "I would the fool were married to her grave!," in other words, I wish she were dead. Lord Capulet even begins hurling insults at their daughter, telling her to get out. Her mother's final exit lines are "I have done with thee."

Hence, Juliet's relationship with her parents is a very delicate one. She feels no trust in them, nor do they truly care about what she wants. While her parents may argue that a happy wedding day would abate Juliet's grief, the truth is that they are eager to see her in a prestigious marriage.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

What is Juliet's relationship with her parents in act 3, scene 5 of Romeo and Juliet?

This scene comprises a critically disastrous moment in the relationship of Juliet to her parents. Romeo has just left Juliet’s room after secretly spending the night. Lady Capulet comes in the room and they begin discussing the fact that Romeo has killed Tybalt. Of course, at this point Lady Capulet has no idea that Juliet and Romeo are married. So Juliet needs to act the part of the outraged cousin, and pretend to hate Romeo. She is engaging in deception with her mother when she says, “Indeed, I never shall be satisfied With Romeo, till I behold him--dead—“ The relationship between Juliet and her mother, which had formerly been at least honest, if not warm, is now affected by Juliet’s lie. Things just get worse when Lord Capulet shows up and says that he intends to wed Juliet to Paris. Juliet refuses and her father is enraged, fuming at Juliet “Hang thee, young baggage! disobedient wretch! I tell thee what: get thee to church o' Thursday, Or never after look me in the face.” Now, not only is Juliet deceiving her parents, she is also engaging in outright rebellion.
Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

Compare Juliet's relationship with her parents from act 3, scene 5 to act 4, scene 5.

In Act III, Scene 5 Juliet's parents inform her that they have promised her hand in marriage to Count Paris. Capulet has changed his mind about Paris (earlier he had required the Count to "win" Juliet's love before consenting) and believes the family needs a "day of joy" after the death of Tybalt. Juliet's parents know nothing about Romeo and it is ironic that they would break the news to their daughter just after she has been with Romeo on the couple's honeymoon night.

When Juliet refuses to marry Paris (because she is already married to Romeo), Lord Capulet becomes enraged and Lady Capulet treats her coldly. Capulet threatens to disown her and put her out in the street. He says,

Hang thee, young baggage, disobedient wretch!
I tell thee what: get thee to church o’ Thursday,
Or never after look me in the face.
Speak not; reply not; do not answer me.
While not quite as demonstrative as her husband, Lady Capulet is also angry  at Juliet and refuses to be of any assistance when Juliet asks for some reprieve. Lady Capulet says,
Talk not to me, for I’ll not speak a word.
Do as thou wilt, for I have done with thee.
Juliet eventually seeks advice from Friar Lawrence who devises the plan for her to fake her death and avoid the marriage with Paris. When she returns home she basically lies to her father and tells him she will do whatever he wants. She says in Act IV, Scene 2,
By holy Lawrence to fall prostrate here [Kneeling.]
To beg your pardon. Pardon, I beseech you.
Henceforward I am ever ruled by you.
Juliet also treats her mother cordially in Scene 3 just before she takes the potion which will render her lifeless for almost two days. When she is discovered supposedly dead, her parents are distraught and mournfully praise their daughter. Lady Capulet says in Scene 5,
O me! O me! My child, my only life,
Revive, look up, or I will die with thee.
Help, help! Call help.
And Lord Capulet is heartbroken at finding Juliet. He echoes his wife's words, 
Despised, distressèd, hated, martyred, killed!
Uncomfortable time, why cam’st thou now
To murder, murder our solemnity?
O child! O child! My soul and not my child!
Dead art thou! Alack, my child is dead,
And with my child my joys are burièd.
In retrospect, the relationship doesn't really change. Juliet is lying to her parents throughout these scenes. She never reveals her relationship with Romeo, even when presented with the marriage to Paris. In Act IV, Scene 5 she is also deceiving them by faking her death. Honesty is totally lacking in the relationship from the very moment Juliet meets Romeo.
Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

In Romeo and Juliet, what is Juliet's relationship with her parents in Act 4, Scene 2?

The scene is played out the day before Juliet is supposed to marry the county Paris. Preparations are being made for the wedding. Juliet displays a respectful, courteous and kind attitude to her parents in this scene. She comes across as quite obedient and does not challenge or provoke either Lady or Lord Capulet in any way, as illustrated in the manner in which speaks.

When her father asks her where she had been gallivanting about, Juliet replies:

Where I have learn'd me to repent the sin
Of disobedient opposition
To you and your behests, and am enjoin'd
By holy Laurence to fall prostrate here,
And beg your pardon: pardon, I beseech you!
Henceforward I am ever ruled by you.

Juliet is here referring to a previous occasion in Act 3, scene 5, where she had been involved in a heated confrontation with her father. During this verbal altercation Juliet had refused to accede to her father's request to marry Paris. He lost his temper and threatened to not only to give her corporal punishment, but to throw her out of his house and disown her as well. He was extremely upset by her reaction and was harsh and irrational. He told her to reconsider her decision for he was serious. What he obviously did not know was that Juliet had already wed Romeo at this stage.

Here she informs her father that she has learnt to repent from her sin of disobedient opposition and will now follow his every command. She says, furthermore, that Friar Laurence has asked her to show humility and beg her father's forgiveness. She beseeches him to pardon her for having been disrespectful and promises that she will now forever obey his commands.

Lord Capulet is obviously overjoyed at this turn of events and wants to continue with the wedding preparations since he wants the betrothal to be finalized by the next morning. He asks that Paris be sent for so that he can be given the good news. At this, Juliet informs him that she had met Paris at the church and that she had given him signs of her love without overstepping the boundaries of modest behaviour.

Lord Capulet expresses his delight and ironically thanks Friar Laurence for his influence in changing Juliet's mind and says, 

Now, afore God! this reverend holy friar,
Our whole city is much bound to him.

He is, of course, unaware that the friar has plotted with Juliet to ensure that she escapes marrying Paris to be with Romeo. He has provided her with a powerful sleeping potion which will bring on a death-like sleep. The plan is that her parents will believe her dead and bury her in the family tomb. He and Romeo will fetch her once she has recovered and the two lovers will then escape to Mantua.

On the whole, therefore, Juliet's respectful and obedient behaviour is a sham. She puts on an act, for she knows what will actually unfold and does not want to complicate matters any further.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How and why does Juliet's relationship with the Nurse change in Romeo and Juliet?

Juliet's relationship with the Nurse suffers after Romeo's banishment, when the Nurse suggests Juliet marry Paris. Indeed, it is worth noting that this perceived betrayal seems to have have done lasting damage, given that Juliet employed the Nurse as an intermediary vis-a-vis her earlier marriage with Romeo, while maintaining secrecy when faking her death.

I think Juliet's reaction is understandable and justified. On the one hand, it should be noted that Juliet herself does not want to marry Paris, but at the same time, we should also keep in mind the sacramental implications of a second marriage. The world of Romeo and Juliet is one where religious devotionalism would have had a great deal of power (Early Modern Europe was a profoundly Christian world, far more so than what can be observed today in the modern secular west), and this sort of second marriage would have been understood as being a grave sin.

Indeed, note the sense of shock and horror present in Juliet's response to the Nurse's suggestion; Juliet's reaction is "Ancient damnation! O most wicked fiend!" There is a genuine sense of moral outrage here on Juliet's part, and, given the religious factors at play (and the context these factors introduce), this moral outrage makes a great deal of sense: when seen from a traditional Christian perspective, the Nurse's suggestion of taking a second husband, even as the first marriage remains fully in effect, would have been considered an abomination. It should not be surprising, then, that this turn of events would have greatly shaken Juliet's opinion of and relationship with the Nurse.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How and why does Juliet's relationship with the Nurse change in Romeo and Juliet?

The Nurse is Juliet's closest companion and confidante in Shakespeare's Romeo Juliet. Juliet confides in the Nurse about her most intimate secrets, especially her love for Romeo. She is, in fact, closer to the Nurse than her own parents, as evidenced by the discussion with Lady Capulet in Act I, Scene 3, which is dominated by the Nurse. The Nurse is also a foil to Juliet. A foil is a character who provides a contrast to another character. For a more complete discussion of how the Nurse is a foil to Juliet see the link below.

In Act III, Scene 5, Lord Capulet breaks the news to Juliet that he has promised her in marriage to Count Paris. When Juliet refuses (she is already married to Romeo), Capulet flies into a rage and berates his daughter, threatening to disown her. At first the Nurse attempts to defend Juliet. She says,

God in heaven bless her!
You are to blame, my lord, to rate her so.
But later, after Capulet has left, the Nurse advises Juliet to forget Romeo (he has been banished to Mantua) and marry Paris. She does not understand the devotion Juliet feels for Romeo. She even tells Juliet that the Count is a better man. She says,
Faith, here it is.
Romeo is banished, and all the world to nothing
That he dares ne’er come back to challenge you,
Or, if he do, it needs must be by stealth.
Then, since the case so stands as now it doth,
I think it best you married with the County.
O, he’s a lovely gentleman!
Romeo’s a dishclout to him. An eagle, madam,
Hath not so green, so quick, so fair an eye
As Paris hath. Beshrew my very heart,
I think you are happy in this second match,
For it excels your first, or, if it did not,
Your first is dead, or ’twere as good he were
As living here and you no use of him.
This, of course, is not what Juliet wants to hear. She feels betrayed by the one person she thought would understand. At the end of the scene, she thanks the Nurse and dismisses her. It is the last conversation they ever have. She then reveals her negative response to the Nurse's advice. She doesn't understand how the Nurse could originally praise Romeo and then denounce him. She vows to never listen to the Nurse again:
Ancient damnation, O most wicked fiend!
Is it more sin to wish me thus forsworn
Or to dispraise my lord with that same tongue
Which she hath praised him with above compare
So many thousand times? Go, counselor.
Thou and my bosom henceforth shall be twain.
Juliet is definitely justified in her response to the Nurse. She could not marry Paris and it was hypocritical for the Nurse to change her mind about Romeo. Juliet needed more constructive advice from the Nurse. Instead she turns to the Friar, whose plan is ultimately fatal.
Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How does Juliet's relationship with the Nurse in Romeo and Juliet evolve and why?

It is true that at the beginning of the play, Juliet and her Nurse are close enough to be mother and daughter—they are much closer than Juliet is with her actual mother. In fact, in Act 1, Scene 3, Shakespeare reveals that the Nurse was in fact Juliet’s wet nurse:

Even or odd, of all days in the year,

Come Lammas –eve at night shall she be fourteen.

Susan and she – God rest all Christian souls!—

Were of an age: well, Susan is with God; (I.iii.v17-20)

And she was wean’d – I never shall forget it –

Of all the days of the year, upon that day:

For I had then laid wormwood to my dug, (I.iii.v.24-26)

Imagine the emotional bonding that would take place between a baby girl and a wet nurse who’d just lost her own baby girl! Emotionally, the Nurse regards Juliet as her daughter in truth. This puts Juliet’s reaction to the disagreement in perspective, for how many teenage daughters have never cursed their mothers and claimed they “just didn’t understand”?

However, I feel that their relationship doesn't necessarily end at the point of the exchange in Act 3, Scene 5. I do agree that Juliet feels betrayed and is then forced to get help and advice from the Friar, with disastrous results. However, even in turning against Romeo, the Nurse is looking out for Juliet’s best interests. She never wavers in her love. It would be unrealistic to expect that the Nurse’s love, after everything she had done up to this point, would wither under the heat of one argument. It is, however, realistic to assume that had Juliet lived, she would have at some point reconciled with her Nurse. This adds a subtle but poignant note to the tragedy of Juliet’s death.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How does the Nurse's character evolve in Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet?

Nurse in Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet can actually be considered more of a static character. Static characters are characters that actually don't change or develop throughout the story, as opposed to round characters that do develop and change, especially with respect to having self-realizations. However, whether or not she is a static character or one who evolves is actually open to some interpretation.

Nurse's one emotional drive as a character is pleasing Juliet. Nurse agrees to venture out into town to meet Romeo in order to acquire his plans for marriage simply because she loves Juliet and wants to do what she can to make her happy. We can actually even speculate that Nurse does not think very highly of Romeo. We see Nurse criticize Juliet's choice, even saying that she has made a poor choice in Romeo, in the lines,

Well, you have made a simple choice; you know
not how to choose a man. Romeo? No, not he. (II.v.39-40)

However, Nurse may be joking in those lines as she goes on to praise his looks saying,

Though his face be better than any man's, yet his leg excells all men's; and for a hand and a foot, and a body...they are past compare. (41-43)

In other words, Nurse is declaring that Romeo is better looking than any other man.

If Nurse truly is joking in saying that Romeo is a poor choice for Juliet, then one way in which we do see her change as a character is that she later changes her mind and praises Paris above Romeo, encouraging Juliet to marry Paris, as we see when she says,

I think it best you married with the County.
O, he's a lovely gentleman!
Romeo's a dishclout to him. An eagle, madam,
Hath not so green, so quick, so fair an eye
As Paris hath. (III.v.227-231)

I would actually argue that when Nurse criticizes Juliet's taste in Romeo she is speaking more honestly than she lets on in the next lines; Nurse truly does not think very highly of Romeo. I would also argue the Nurse's dislike of Romeo was of course increased when Romeo slayed Tybalt. Hence, Nurse is speaking honestly when she says that Paris is above Romeo. Hence, I think it can be argued that Nurse's opinion of Romeo stays static throughout the play and that she is a static character who wants nothing more than to please Juliet.

However, it is also possible to see her as having changed her mind about Romeo. If she has changed her mind, then we can see her as a character who has evolved from wanting to please Juliet to wanting to protect her.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How does the Nurse's character evolve in Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet?

The Nurse is set up as a foil to Juliet. A foil is a character who provides a contrast to another character. The Nurse is more light-hearted than Juliet. She doesn't look at love as romantically as the girl and often refers to it simply as a physical act. She obviously loves Juliet very much or else she would not have provided the support that allowed Juliet to be with Romeo. She is also more pragmatic and when Romeo is banished she urges Juliet to marry Count Paris in order to please Lord Capulet.

Her light-hearted and whimsical nature are on display when she is introduced in Act I, Scene 3. When asked how old Juliet is, she launches into a bawdy story about how her husband made a rude comment about Juliet when she was a little girl. She goes on and on, much to the dismay of Lady Capulet who seems uptight and nervous around her daughter. The Nurse oozes love for Juliet. She says, "Thou wast the prettiest babe that e’er I nursed." In this scene and in Act II, she often provides comic relief in a story which is moving toward tragedy.

As indicated by her story in Act I, Scene 3, the Nurse looks at love in a lustier, more physical way. In that scene she is simply concerned that Paris is good looking. That he may provide the spiritual link Juliet is looking for does not concern her as illustrated by her comment that men make women bigger by getting them pregnant: "No less? Nay, bigger. Women grow by men."

After she meets Romeo she can only talk about his good looks. She admits that he is not the most courteous man she's ever met but that doesn't matter because he is physically attractive. In Act II, Scene 5 she says,
Though his face be better than any man’s, yet his leg
excels all men’s, and for a hand and a foot and a
body, though they be not to be talked on, yet they
are past compare.
A little later in the scene she makes another sexual reference about Juliet's honeymoon night. The Nurse acts as a go between for Romeo and Juliet and is responsible for getting a rope ladder so Romeo can crawl into Juliet's room. She says,
Hie you to church. I must another way,
To fetch a ladder by the which your love
Must climb a bird’s nest soon when it is dark.
I am the drudge and toil in your delight,
But you shall bear the burden soon at night.
The Nurse does not understand the spiritual nature of Juliet's love. Juliet believes Romeo is her soulmate, not simply a good looking man who will provide her with physical pleasure (though Juliet is not without anticipation of this). Because the Nurse fails to recognize, or simply cannot comprehend, Juliet's intense feelings for Romeo it is easy for her to advise Juliet to forget him and do as Lord Capulet wishes. In Act III, Scene 5 she tells Juliet to marry Paris,
Then, since the case so stands as now it doth,
I think it best you married with the County.
O, he’s a lovely gentleman!
That the Nurse is kind, loving and trying to do what is best for Juliet cannot be denied. She goes out of her way for the girl and probably risks her job and maybe even her life by keeping Juliet's secret. In the last scene where the Nurse appears, Shakespeare reinforces the idea that the Nurse truly loved Juliet as she cries and carries on after finding Juliet supposedly dead at the end of Act IV:
O woe, O woeful, woeful, woeful day!
Most lamentable day, most woeful day
That ever, ever I did yet behold!
O day, O day, O day, O hateful day!
Never was seen so black a day as this!
O woeful day, O woeful day!  
 
Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

Describe the Nurse's relationship with Juliet in Romeo and Juliet.

The nurse is a lively woman who is very loyal to Juliet. She is much closer to her ward than Lady Capulet is, being Juliet’s primary caretaker. She is also prone to reminiscing about humorous memories. Lady Capulet becomes frustrated at the nurse’s ramblings and inappropriate jokes. When Juliet’s mother asks her daughter what she thinks about marrying Paris, the nurse encourages this union for Juliet’s sake: “Go, girl, seek happy nights to happy days.” Her first priority is to Juliet’s well-being.

Juliet confides in her nurse, even about her love for Romeo. Though she prefers Paris to Romeo, the nurse agrees to be a go-between in an attempt to support Juliet’s happiness. She becomes extremely vexed when Mercutio harasses her during her attempts to talk to Romeo, repeatedly exclaiming, “Scurvy knave!” She soon returns to her usual good humor and teases the impatient Juliet by pretending to be too tired to relate Romeo’s response to her request of marriage.

The nurse shows her protectiveness by warning Romeo not to “lead her into a fool's paradise” and by standing up to Lord Capulet when he rages against Juliet. After Romeo kills Paris and Lord Capulet insists that Juliet marry Paris, the nurse advises Juliet to give up Romeo and marry Paris. While her advice is practical, Juliet decides to pursue her heart and leave the nurse out of her plans from then on. Juliet’s feigned death greatly aggrieves her caretakers, including the nurse, who discovers her body. She laments over and over again, crying, “O woful, woful, woful day!”

Juliet’s nurse is one of Romeo and Juliet’s most well-drawn characters. She is feisty, funny, pragmatic, and affectionate, and her grief at Juliet’s death shows that she is one of the play’s many victims.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

What is the relationship between Juliet and the Nurse in Romeo and Juliet?

The Nurse is closer to Juliet than Lady Capulet (Juliet's own mother) is, and Juliet is the daughter who replaced the Nurse's dead child. In act I, Scene 3, the Nurse says the following:

Susan and she—God rest all Christian souls!—
Were of an age. Well, Susan is with God.
She was too good for me.
The Nurse recalls that Juliet and Susan were born on the same day; hence, they were "of an age," or the same age. Susan, the Nurse's daughter, died, and the Nurse was able to breastfeed Juliet. She recalls the day on which she weaned Juliet, which was also a day on which there was an earthquake. The Nurse says to Lady Capulet, "My lord and you were then at Mantua."
The Nurse was the person who breastfed and raised Juliet, and Juliet's parents were often away. The symbolism of Juliet and the Nurse's dead child having been born on the same day is unmistakeable. Juliet has effectively become the Nurse's daughter, and the Nurse has raised Juliet and taken the place of her absent and cold parents.
Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

What is the relationship between Juliet and the Nurse in Romeo and Juliet?

In Act I, Scene 3, we are introduced to the powerful relationship that exists between Juliet and her nurse when the nurse comments:

God mark thee to his grace!/  Thou wast the prettiest babe that ere I nursed:/ An might I live to see thee married once, I have my wish (I. 3. 63-66)

Juliet's "nurse," is, in fact, her surrogate mother, having nursed Juliet as  a baby.  Although it is not uncommon among aristocracy to use wet-nurses, the result of this practice is usually a strong maternal bond between the nurse and child.  In fact, as we read the scenes between Lady Capulet and Juliet, as opposed to the scenes between Juliet and the Nurse, we note the stiffness, the formality in the relationship between mother and daughter, and the familiar, warm, informal relationship between Juliet and the Nurse.  Quite naturally, the Nurse becomes Juliet's confidante and, by extension, becomes a prime mover in the plot to bring Juliet and Romeo together--taking messages to and from the couple; providing the ladder by which Romeo can get up to Juliet's room.

Juliet, of course, trusts the Nurse explicitly throughout the first part of the play, but after the death of Tybalt at Romeo's hands, the Nurse switches her alliance from Juliet to the Capulets, noting that Romeo has been banished.  Her advice to Juliet is

Then, since the case so stands as it doth,/I think it best you married the county [that is, the count]./O, he's a lovely gentleman!/Romeo's a dishclout to him. . . . (III. 5. ll. 217-220)

Earlier in this scene, the Nurse tries to defend Juliet against the tirade of her father, Lord Capulet, and is attacked verbally in her turn (and perhaps physically), an indication that her maternal instincts still overpower her sense of self-preservation.  But, in the face of Romeo's banishment--and his killing of Tybalt--the Nurse shifts her view of Juliet's marriage goals completely.

The question is, "What has happened to the warm, loving, intimate relationship between Juliet and the Nurse?"  Although the answer is that no one is quite sure, one can argue that the Nurse, understanding that Lord and Lady Capulet now have politics and law on their side, decides to encourage Juliet to give up Romeo as a lost cause and give in to the marriage with Paris, which is by far the more rational choice of the two marriages. 

During the Renaissance and later, marriage was often not based on love but on political considerations.  In fact, marriage for love is a relatively modern construct.  The Nurse's shift in alliance is not necessarily a betrayal of Juliet so much as it is a recognition of political and marriage reality.  One can argue, of course, that the Nurse's abandoning of Juliet is an act of cowardice, and it certainly can be seen that way, but an equally strong argument rests on the political realities of the time, which would have made a marriage between Romeo and Juliet a nightmare--and short.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How does the Nurse's attitude toward Juliet change in Romeo and Juliet?

I would argue that her attitude toward Juliet doesn't change throughout the play. I think that the nurse always wants what is best for Juliet. She wants Juliet to be happy, and she wants her to be well taken care of. What does change about the nurse is how she interacts with Juliet. At the beginning of the play, the nurse is quite comical and very friendly with Juliet. The two verbally spar with each other, and the nurse speaks some fairly raunchy jokes. The nurse encourages Juliet to take the risk with Romeo, and she even plays a major part in organizing the wedding. The nurse is clearly taking active steps to make sure that Juliet gets what she desires, and she does this knowing that it would make the Capulet family furious. Even in act 3, scene 5, the nurse defends Juliet's wishes to not marry Paris, and she nurse intervenes on Juliet's behalf when Lord Capulet is berating his daughter. Capulet turns his rage on her, and he verbally attacks the nurse. It's also possible that he physically attacks her, too. It's at this point that the nurse tells Juliet to forget Romeo and marry Paris:

Faith, here it is.
Romeo is banishèd, and all the world to nothing
That he dares ne'er come back to challenge you.
Or, if he do, it needs must be by stealth.
Then, since the case so stands as now it doth,
I think it best you married with the county.
Oh, he’s a lovely gentleman.
I don't think that the nurse has changed her opinion of Juliet. I think her opinion of Juliet's situation has changed. The nurse can no longer treat Juliet like a little girl. She's a girl who is married and is going to be married again, by her father's order. The nurse is advising Juliet to take the safest option and protect herself. Paris is financially stable, hasn't been banished, and is accepted by the Capulet family. He's good-looking. too. The nurse believes the time for taking risks is over—they tried, they failed, and now it's time for Juliet to grow up and make the smart decision.
Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How does the Nurse's attitude toward Juliet change in Romeo and Juliet?

Early in the play, the Nurse is a bit stuck in the past, treating Juliet like the little baby she helped raise and telling embarrassing stories.

Later, she first is more adult, about marriage, and then a bit crude, dropping jokes in.

When Tybalt is killed, the Nurse judges Juliet pretty harshly.

However, throughout the play, the Nurse wants to help and protect Juliet, and loves her. That does not change.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How does the Nurse's attitude toward Juliet change in Romeo and Juliet?

In the past, Nurse has always supported Juliet and been happy to see her do whatever makes her happy.  Nurse even accepted Juliet's secret marriage to Romeo and did whatever she could to help the couple; she carried messages back and forth between the two when they were attempting to arrange a meeting time and place.

However, Juliet's failure to agree to marry County Paris, which her father demands (he was not aware of her secret marriage), is not approved of by Nurse.  Nurse reminds Juliet that Romeo is banned and states that the chances of him returning to her are virtually nonexistant; she goes on to praise the virtues of Count Paris and to state that Romeo is dead, or as good as dead, to Juliet.  When Juliet questions her feelings, Nurse says that they come from her heart and soul.

Nurse's belief that Romeo will not return to Juliet and that it is best for Juliet to marry Paris cause a rift in the very strong relationship that the two have shared since Juliet was a baby.  Juliet tells herself that she will never trust the nurse, who has been her best friend, again due to the Nurse's betrayal.  Juliet is also angry and hurt that Nurse acts in such a "two-faced" way; although Nurse complimented and bragged on Romeo at one point, she now has nothing positive to say about him.

Ancient damnation!  O most wicked fiend!

Is it more sin to wish me thus forsworn,

Or to dispraise my lord with that same tongue

Which she hath praised him with above compare

So many thousand times?  Go, counselor!

Thou and my bosom henceforth shall be twain...

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

What kind of relationship do Juliet and the Nurse have in Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet?

Up until their parting in Act III, Scene 5, the relationship between Juliet and the Nurse might be compared to two very close friends or even sisters who share everything, including each other's private thoughts and secrets. Although tempting, it is not appropriate to say the Nurse was similar to a parental figure. Had the Nurse been like a parent (even though she literally nursed Juliet) she would have been more likely to be disciplinary in understanding the ramifications of Juliet's relationship with Romeo. Instead, the Nurse is a faithful confidante, who is only interested in the fact that Juliet is happy, and is willing to take part in Juliet's intrigues because of her devoted love for the girl. Like a trusted girlfriend, she acts as Juliet's surrogate in finding out Romeo's intentions in Act II, Scene 4. She shares this news with Juliet as if they are school girls talking about the boys in their class. Juliet's confidence in the Nurse is ultimately shattered in Act III, Scene 5 after being informed that Lord Capulet has arranged for her to marry Count Paris. When her refusals to marry the Count (she is already married to Romeo) are spurned by her parents, Juliet turns to the Nurse, who does a complete about-face in her opinion of Romeo and counsels Juliet to forget him and marry Paris because, as she says, "this match...excels your first." Juliet is shocked by this advice and vows that their close relationship is over.   

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How does the relationship between Juliet and her nurse change throughout Romeo and Juliet?

Juliet's nurse transforms from guardian to friend in the course of Romeo and Juliet.  At the beginning of the play, the nurse acts as guardian of Juliet.  She hopes for Juliet to wed Paris, telling Juliet, "Go,girl, seek happy nights to happy days" (1.3.110).  Looking closely, the reader will see that it is the nurse who informs both Juliet and Romeo of their respective families in order to discourage their love.  First, without being at all rude, the nurse responds to Romeo's request as to the identity of Juliet's mother.  In regards to Juliet, the nurse tries to name all the other gentlemen going out the door in order to avoid the truth about the man she fears Juliet loves.  However, as the nurse learns the true nature of Juliet's feelings, the nurse's heart weeps for her sweet Juliet.  She willingly goes to seek out the information requested, even by going into the midst of teenage boys and saying, "If you be he, sir, I desire some confidence with you" (2.4.124).  Upon returning to Juliet, and seeing how Juliet hangs on her every word, hoping to hear about her future marriage to Romeo, the nurse does what any good friend would do:  she teases Juliet.

I am aweary, give me leave awhile. / Fie, how my bones ache!  What a jaunce have I had! / . . . / Lord, how my head aches!  What a head have I!  It beats as it would fall in twenty pieces. (2.5.28-29,49-50)

Juliet is beside herself, longing for the news.  Juliet tries to get her friend, her "sweet nurse" to talk more plainly by asking her to be more specific only to be met with, "Where is your mother?" (2.5.58).  Only when Juliet is at her wits end does the nurse say:

Then hie you hence to Friar Laurence' cell; / There stays a husband to make you a wife.  (2.5.70-71)

From this moment on, the nurse does nothing but help the two be together.  Even in the very next line she vows to get a ladder so that Romeo can come to Juliet's room that night and consummate the marriage.  What a friend!

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

In Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet, how does the nurse's character evolve?

I would actually argue that Nurse does not evolve as a character. She is recognizably a static character, a character that does not grow or change through undergoing self-revelations due to story development. Nurse is recognized as one of Shakespeare's best comic characters. In fact, she is one character that makes this play a cross between a tragedy and a comedy because it is characteristic of comedies to have a comic female companion; nurse serves as that comic female companion.

Nurse's one and only motivation throughout the play is to make Juliet happy. Juliet's happiness is the reason she agrees to venture out to meet Romeo the morning after the ball and find out if he is truly intending to marry Juliet. We see her ask Romeo what his intentions when she says:

If ye should lead her into a fool's paradise, as they say, it were a very gross kind of behaviour ... for the gentle woman is young. (II.iv.152-154)

Since marrying Romeo makes Juliet happy, she agrees to help them with the marriage and keep it a secret. Later in the play we see her believe that, since Romeo has been banished, marrying Paris would make her happy instead. Hence, we see her recommend that Juliet marry Paris as well, even though polygamy is a sin, which is a very comical suggestion. We see her recommend Paris in the lines:

I think it best you married with the County.
O, he's a lovely gentleman!
Romeo's a dishclout to him. (III.v.227-229)

While it seems from this passage and earlier behavior that Nurse has changed her mind about Romeo and now believes that he is of questionable character due to his murdering Tybalt, we still see Nurse bring Romeo to Juliet, even after his banishment. Hence, we can legitimately say that every decision Nurse makes is for Juliet's happiness alone. While Nurse may change her mind, she does not change her values as a character; she only values Juliet and everything she does is to make her happy. Therefore, we can easily argue that Nurse does not develop as a character throughout the story. She is a static character.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How is Juliet's relationship with her parents and the Nurse portrayed in Romeo and Juliet?

William Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet is a story about two feuding families: the Montagues and the Capulets. Thirteen-year-old Juliet is a Capulet, and in the beginning she has no particular desire to get married and is willing to do what her parents ask her to do. Her parents are not pushing her to get married, either. When Paris asks Capulet if he can marry Juliet, Capulet is not particularly interested because she is his only child and he wants to be sure she is happy.

The earth hath swallow'd all my hopes but she,
She is the hopeful lady of my earth:
But woo her, gentle Paris, get her heart,
My will to her consent is but a part;
An she agree, within her scope of choice
Lies my consent and fair according voice.

It is significant to note here that he says he will never consent to any suitor who has not wooed and won Juliet's heart. Her consent will weigh heavily when he gives his own consent. That will change in a matter of days.

On the night of the famous Capulet party, Juliet's mother asks Juliet how she feels about getting married; Juliet says it is something she has not much thought about. Her mother tells her that Paris is interested in Juliet and asks her daughter to look at him tonight at the party with an open mind, since it many other girls (including herself) are already married at this age. Juliet agrees, saying:

I'll look to like, if looking liking move:
But no more deep will I endart mine eye
Than your consent gives strength to make it fly.

This is true obedience, as she not only says she will look as asked but she will not overstep her position as a daughter and take any action on what she sees.

Everything changes in the relationship between the Capulets and their daughters because of two things: first, Juliet meets Romeo, and second, Tybalt is killed. Hours after she meets Romeo, Juliet marries him. Though her parents do not know it yet, this causes an insurmountable rift in their relationship with Juliet. Once she was modest and obedient; now she is headstrong and dismissive of her parents' authority. 

Once Romeo kills Tybalt, the relationship between Juliet and her parents is irrevocably broken. While Juliet mourns the loss of Romeo who has been banished, her parents assume she is inconsolable over the loss of Tybalt. Their failure to communicate openly on this key issue causes all the other problems in the play. Presumably because he wants to help ease his daughter's grief, he plans her hasty marriage to Paris--a complete reversal of his previous vow. Because she refuses, he is angry enough to hit her and disown her.

Hang thee, young baggage! disobedient wretch!
I tell thee what: get thee to church o' Thursday,
Or never after look me in the face:
Speak not, reply not, do not answer me;
My fingers itch. 

This dramatic turnaround for Capulet is explainable only by his grief and, ironically, his desire to help his daughter deal with her grief. If not that, then Capulet is simply a capricious and double-minded man. Things change again once he realizes he has lost his daughter over a ridiculous feud. 

In the midst of all this dramatic and hasty change, Juliet looks to the Nurse as her primary adviser, and of course the Nurse acts on emotion rather than reason both in helping Juliet marry Romeo and then in advising Juliet to marry Paris since Romeo has been banished. In both cases, the Nurse serves as a bad adviser to Juliet.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How does Shakespeare develop the relationship between Juliet and her nurse in Romeo and Juliet?

We see the relationship between Juliet and her nurse change and develop as the play progresses. While it is evident that Juliet finds her nurse to be a ridiculous person, it is also evident that they are very close at first. Nurse is Juliet's only confidant. However, when Juliet begins feeling betrayed by Nurse, who tries to persuade Juliet to forget about her exiled husband Romeo and marry Paris instead, Juliet severs their relationship.

We first see that Juliet thinks her nurse is a ridiculous person when we first meet both Juliet and Nurse in the first act. Nurse is annoying both Juliet and her mother by relaying ridiculous stories about Juliet's childhood. Juliet is so annoyed that she begs her nurse to stop, saying, "And stint thou too, I pray thee, nurse, say I" (I.iii.62). Juliet's mother has just begged Nurse to stop talking and now Juliet is repeating the request, as we see in the phrase, "[a]nd stint thou too," the word stint meaning "cease," or stop (Random House Dictionary). Since Juliet is also begging Nurse to stop her absurd story about Juliet, we can hear in Juliet's voice how annoyed and embarrassed she feels, showing us that she thinks her nurse is a silly, ridiculous person.

Regardless of her nurse's quirks, Juliet is actually closer to her nurse than to her parents; Nurse is Juliet's only confidant. We see this when Juliet confides in Nurse about her feelings for Romeo and uses Nurse as a go-between to learn about Romeo's plans for marriage. However, their relationship changes when Romeo is banished from Verona and Juliet's parents try to force her to marry Paris. Their relationship changes due to the fact that Nurse actually sides with her parents. It is evident in several places throughout the play that Nurse actually prefers Paris over Romeo. So when Juliet is faced with a decision to either be ostracized by her parents or become a bigamist, Nurse encourages Juliet to forget about Romeo and marry Paris, arguing that Paris is far above Romeo, as we see in her lines, "O, [Paris] is a lovely gentleman! / Romeo's a dishclout to him," meaning that Romeo is no better than a "dishcloth" in comparison to Paris (eNotes, III.v.228-29). When Juliet hears this, to herself she proclaims how hypocritically Nurse has behaved and promises that she shall from now on never trust nor associate with her nurse again, as we see in her lines, "Go, counsellor! / Thou and my bosom henceforth shall be twain" (250-51).

Hence we see that while at first Nurse was Juliet's only trusted friend, as the play progresses, their relationship develops into a much more distant and dissolved relationship.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

What is the relationship between Juliet and the Nurse with textual reference to "Romeo and Juliet"?

Juliet's Nurse has a place in the household quite superior to that of other servants, largely because both Lady Capulet and Juliet regard her as a listening ear whose advice is valuable. We know that she has nursed Juliet since infancy; Juliet and the Nurse's own child, Susan, "were of an age," and the Nurse tells fond stories of Juliet's infancy as if Juliet were her own child. Lady Capulet, too, wants to hear what the Nurse has to say, as in act I, scene III, she says (after having asked the Nurse, like any other servant, to leave):

Nurse, come back again;

I have remember'd me: thou hear'st our counsel.

It is evident that Lady Capulet trusts the Nurse's opinion as to Juliet's readiness for marriage because she knows how close the two are. Remember also that Lady Capulet herself is only twenty-six years old, according to the play, and has never had to make a decision of this kind before, as Juliet is her oldest child. It is implied that the Nurse is older and more worldly-wise. Protective of Juliet, the Nurse declares her "the prettiest babe that e'er I nursed" and says she would like to see Juliet married, but, unlike Lady Capulet, she is concerned more with Juliet's happiness than making a good match. As she says, "Seek happy nights to happy days."

This support from the Nurse recurs later in the play when Juliet admits to the Nurse (but not to her mother) that her "only love" is, in fact, Romeo, and not Paris, whom Lady Capulet wants her to marry. She trusts the Nurse, evidently, with her secret, and this trust is not misplaced, as the Nurse then acts as a go-between from Juliet to Romeo. It is clear that the Nurse's loyalties are not so much to her household as they are to Juliet, whom she has nursed from birth. She cannot bear to disappoint Juliet, even when she has misgivings.

Last Updated on
An illustration of the letter 'A' in a speech bubbles

How does Juliet's relationship with Romeo influence her change in Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet?

In Shakepeare's play Romeo and Juliet, Juliet and Romeo fall instantly in love.

Though they are each a member of feuding families in Verona (the Capulets and the Montagues), they meet without knowing the other's last name. Their relationship, then, is based upon the character and qualities of the other, and not on some age-old feud in which they have little involvement.

By the time the two sweethearts realize the identity of the other, it is too late. They plan to defy convention and their family connections, and they marry secretly.

I don't get the sense that Juliet changes: she seems far removed from the politics that divide the two families. She loves Romeo, and he is devoted to her. She will do anything to avoid being wed to Paris, as her father plans, especially in that she is already married to Romeo.

When Romeo kills Juliet's cousin Tybalt, because he murders Romeo's dear friend Mercutio, Juliet is at first beside herself. She is angry with what Romeo has done. But upon reflection, she realizes that Romeo is not a part of the fighting, and that they are married: he is her husband, and Tybalt, though related, was a hothead. In the Biblical manner, she turns her back on her family and "cleaves" to her husband.

The change that I notice in Juliet with regard to those closest to her occurs with the Nurse. When the Nurse suggests that Juliet should turn her back on Romeo, Juliet's love for her husband is clearly defined once again: she is steadfast and loyal to him, and from this point, hides her plans from the other woman.

If it is a change that Juliet turns away from her family, then, yes, it is because of Romeo: Juliet loves him with all of her heart. And when the Nurse suggests she should abandon him, Juliet cuts off her relationship with the Nurse. Romeo is at the center of her existence, from the day Juliet meets and falls in love with him.

Get Ahead with eNotes

Start your 48-hour free trial to access everything you need to rise to the top of the class. Enjoy expert answers and study guides ad-free and take your learning to the next level.

Get 48 Hours Free Access
Last Updated on