This is an interesting question. Christina Rossetti has often been analyzed through a feminist lens, but this poem, which takes its inspiration from the Victorian cult of mourning, is not usually one of those which is considered to have a strong emphasis upon feminist themes. We can, however, perhaps detect an instance or two in which Rossetti's speaker is at least acknowledging the role that women have been given in society.

The key moment comes in line 6, in which the speaker exhorts the listener—presumably her beloved—to remember her even when he is no longer able to talk to her about "the future that you plann'd." The word "you" here is of course significant, because it indicates that the speaker of the poem had no choice in the matter of her own future; this was to be decided for her by a man. The voice in the poem is intimate and loving; the speaker does not appear to be hugely disconsolate about this, as it was simply a reflection of the way things were. But it is, perhaps, notable, that the act of dying is described using strong "I" statements: "when I have gone away." By contrast to "the future that you planned," it is arguable that the speaker views dying as perhaps the only thing she can do truly on her own, actively and without needing the support or approval of somebody else.

Rossetti's ultimate message to her lover, too, is that it does not matter whether he remembers her or forgets her; if he is able to be happy by forgetting her, then that is the most important thing. This seems to be something of a rejection of the Victorian cult of mourning, which saw women like Queen Victoria (and those imitating Queen Victoria) spend the rest of their lives in mourning for their dead husbands, as if one part of a couple is defined by the other.