The Bennets seem to support the adage that opposites attract, as their views and personalities sharply contrast each other. In Chapter 1, we are told that "the experience of three and twenty years had been insufficient to make his wife understand [Mr. Bennet's] character." While he is laid-back, relaxed, and humorous in his parenting style, his wife is scheming, serious, and high-strung. Mr. Bennet also finds his own humor in making witty remarks about his wife's character, especially relating to her primary goal of obtaining husbands for their daughters. She often seems a bit aloof to his wit. Mrs. Bennet takes a very active role in finding husbands for her five daughters; ironically, her own lack of social graces is often a barrier in creating these desired matches. Mr. Bennet is often seen basically hiding from all the women he lives with and providing much more behind-the-scenes support, particularly to Elizabeth.

In spite of their many differences, the Bennets have worked together to raise (mostly) competent daughters and to ultimately have a successful marriage that has lasted over two decades.