Normal People

by Sally Rooney

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Sally Rooney's Normal People centers on Connell Waldron and Marianne Sheridan, whose stories begin in high school and end in college. Connell and Marianne are initially divided by surface-level differences—Marianne is a loner who is bullied at school, while Connell is popular; the Sheridans are wealthy, while the Waldrons are working-class. Both protagonists lose themselves but, through their relationship, eventually find themselves over the course of the novel.

As a popular high school student, Connell has had brief sexual relationships with a few girls. Although having casual sex is expected of him, he finds the act upsetting, and afterward he keenly feels the humiliation of hearing his experiences discussed by his friends at school. 

He'd had to hear his actions repeated back to him later in the locker room: his errors, and, so much worse, his excruciating attempts at tenderness, performed in gigantic pantomime.

Connell finds that with Marianne, sex is entirely different; there is a strong sense of intimacy and privacy between them, and as Connell wishes, Marianne keeps their relationship a secret.

Marianne, who comes from an abusive family and is considered an outcast in high school, struggles with a deep sense of self-loathing throughout the novel and is particularly insecure during her early relationship with Connell. During sex, she asks,

Am I doing something wrong?

Marianne's question illustrates her initial lack of confidence and her desire to please Connell. Connell, in turn, often questions himself and looks to others for approval, placing a high value on the opinions of his classmates and also, privately, of Marianne.

The first time Connell tells Marianne he loves her is in his bedroom, while the two are still in high school and sleeping together secretly. This moment is extremely significant for Marianne, who has just confessed to Connell that her father used to hit her and her mother.

Her eyes fill up with tears again and she closes them. Even in memory she will find this moment unbearably intense, and she's aware of this now, while it's happening. She has never believed herself fit to be loved by any person. But now she has a new life, of which this is the first moment, and even after many years have passed she will think: Yes, that was it, the beginning of my life.

By contrast, the final time in the novel that Connell tells Marianne he loves her is almost the inverse: the two are celebrating New Year’s Eve at a crowded pub, surrounded by their former classmates, and while the experience is again highly significant for Marianne, her emotional reaction is very different.

She was laughing then, and her face was red. She was in his power, he had chosen to redeem her, she was redeemed. It was so unlike him to behave that way in public that he must have been doing it on purpose, to please her. How strange to find herself so completely under the control of another person, but also how ordinary. No one can be independent of other people completely, so why not give up the attempt, she thought, go running in the other direction, depend on people for everything, allow them to depend on you, why not. She knows he loves her, she doesn’t wonder about that anymore. 

Marianne’s revelations about the nature of dependence between people reflect the novel’s central ideas about the necessity and power of deep human relationships. This includes the book’s portrayal of the relationship between Marianne and Connell as mutually life-altering and—while rife with its share of conflicts and complexities—ultimately positive. In this moment, Connell is the one aiming...

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to please, and he is no longer hindered by the insecurities that once prevented him from publicly acknowledging his feelings for Marianne.

After the suicide of his friend Rob, Connell reflects on the profound impact Marianne has had on his life and his sense of self: while Rob never stopped needing the approval of others and was destroyed by that need, through Marianne’s influence, Connell has avoided suffering the same fate. Remembering his younger, more insecure self, Connell thinks,

He had just wanted to be normal, to conceal the parts of himself that he found shameful and confusing. It was Marianne who had shown him other things were possible. Life was different after that; maybe he had never understood how different it was.

By the novel’s conclusion, Connell and Marianne have each achieved a sense of integrity and self-worth through their relationship with one another, a gift that will endure whether or not their relationship continues in the future.

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