In the short story "Marriage is a Private Affair," Nnaemeka is portrayed as the most sympathetic character because of his difficult decision to marry Nene, which unfortunately ruins his relationship with his father. Nnaemeka is depicted as a proponent of modernity, and he is portrayed as a compassionate, courageous man with integrity. Initially, Nnaemeka makes the honorable decision to tell his father to his face that he is marrying Nene. Nnaemeka realizes that his father will be upset, but he respects his father enough to tell him to his face that he is engaged. Nnaemeka demonstrates his integrity and courage by going against the traditional marriage practices of his tribe and independently deciding to marry Nene. He does not allow the traditional marriage practices to determine his fate, and he accepts the consequences of his decision.
Even though his father rejects him and vehemently disagrees with his decision to marry Nene, Nnaemeka does not lose hope. He writes to his father several times in an attempt to heal their relationship. He even sends his father a picture of him and his wife, hoping that his father will eventually accept his marriage. Overall, Nnaemeka is depicted in a positive light throughout the story, and the audience sympathizes with his difficult situation. Nnaemeka chooses love over his tribe's traditional practices and never gives up hope believing that his father will someday accept his marriage.