Letters from Women Who Love Too Much Summary

Robin Norwood

Letters from Women Who Love Too Much

(Critical Survey of Contemporary Fiction)

There are two main reasons for this sequel: to allow women to see that their problem of relationship addiction is shared by others and to provide a way for the author to answer the letters she received about her first book.

Reading about someone else’s personal anguish can be helpful to someone who shares the same problem. Too often, people with difficulties think that no one else has the same troubles. Women who suffer from relationship addiction may thus find support through reading some of these letters. They are mostly from women who have been battered, sexually abused, or victimized in some way by men who are alcoholics, drug abusers, or sex addicts; yet these writers steadfastly stayed with these men. If the women did get out of such a relationship, they found themselves falling in love with the same type of man again. They were partners in unhealthy relationships not through choice but through addiction.

Norwood answers the letters with the knowledge gained during fifteen years as a marriage and family therapist specializing in addiction. She chose to answer in book form to allow more people to benefit from her suggestions. Unfortunately, the letters are drearily similar in their content, especially in their praise of Norwood’s first book. All of them are depressing in their stories of abuse endured, although many end with the happy claim that the writer is recovering.

This second book does not supersede the first. There is no restating of the important premises presented to WOMEN WHO LOVE TOO MUCH, and the author’s suggestion that her first book should be read before the second is valid.