What is the Afghan wedding ceremony like in The Kite Runner?

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According to Amir, Baba spent $35,000 (nearly his entire life savings) on the awroussi, or wedding ceremony.

Baba rented a large banquet hall in Fremont for the nika, or swearing ceremony. He also paid for matching wedding bands, as well as Amir's tuxedo and traditional green nika suit.

The nika ceremony is the first part of the wedding. During this ceremony, the mullah questioned the wedding witnesses and read from the Quran. Meanwhile, Amir and Soraya made their oaths and signed the marriage certificate. The nika ended with the reading of a poem by one of Soraya's uncles from Virginia, Sharif Jan.

After the nika, Amir and Soraya, flanked by their parents, made their way to the banqueting hall. A procession of relatives followed behind. The wedding song, ahesta boro, played in the background.

Amir and Soraya were then led to a sofa on a stage. There, they were given mirrors and a veil was thrown over their heads. In this way, they could gaze at each other freely. Amir tells us that he remembers huge platters of food on the table and men dancing the traditional attan in a circle.

According to Amir, the wedding celebrations continued in Baba's apartment. Tea was served and music was played until the wee hours of the morning. It was nearly dawn when Amir and Soraya were finally able to "lay together for the first time" as man and wife.

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There were several ceremonies leading up to the actual wedding of Amir and Soraya. First came the lafz ("the ceremony of 'giving word' ") at the general's home before several dozen guests, with Soraya making her appearance at the end. They skipped the traditional Shirini-kori ("the 'Eating of the Sweets' cermony") because of Baba's illness. Baba spent most of the money he had saved (more than $30,000) on the nika, the "swearing ceremony." The wedding couple dressed in traditional green, a symbol of "new beginnings." Many of the guests spoke before Amir and Soraya approached the stage, followed by "a procession of uncles, aunts and cousins." The Afghanistan "wedding song, ahesta boro, blared from the speakers." Then followed Ayena Masshaf, a ceremony involving mirrors in order for the couple to "gaze at each other's reflection." They danced the attan, a circle dance, before

... the party moved from the banquet hall to Baba's apartment... until the neighbors called the cops.  (Chapter 13)

You can find a detailed description in Chapter 13 of the novel.

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