What are Hamlet's real feelings for his mother?

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Hamlet is angry at his mother because she has quickly remarried her deceased husband's brother, a man Hamlet believes pales in comparison to the memory of his father.

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In Shakespeare's Hamlet, Hamlet is obsessed with his mother.

Even though the Ghost tells him to not

...let thy soul contrive

Against thy mother aught.  Leave her to heaven,

And to those thorns that in her bosom lodge

To prick and sting her... (Act 1.5.85-88)

he cannot do so.  Often, his mother's remarriage seems to bother him more than his father's murder. 

Furthermore, he's obsessed with Gertrude's sexual relations with Claudius.  In Act 3.4, after he's mistakenly killed Polonius (thinking it's Claudius), and after the Ghost has reappeared to him to urge Hamlet to not forget his "almost blunted purpose" and to tell him to comfort Gertrude, her sexual relations still dominate his words.  He instructs his mother to:

...live the purer with the other half.

Good night--but go not to my uncle's bed.

Assume a virture, if you have it not.

And he even gives her specific advice on how to go about achieving this abstinence:

...Refrain to-night,

And that shall lend a kind of easiness

To the next abstinence; the next more easy;

For use almost can change the stamp of nature,

And either curb the devil, or throw him out

With wondrous potency. 

And when Gertrude specifically asks him what she should do, although he ultimately tells her to tell Claudius that he is mad so that Claudius does not know he is faking, he prefaces this with:

Not this, by no means, that I bid you do:

Let the bloat king tempt you again to bed,

Pinch wanton on your cheek, call you his mouse,

And let him, for a pair of reechy kisses,

Or paddling in your neck with his damned fingers,

Make you to ravel all this matter out,...

This is obsession, not just normal love or concern or hurt feelings.  Some suggest it is unnatural, and some performers perform it as such. 

Incidentally, you probably don't need the word "real" in your question.  Hamlet's disgust for what Gertrude has done, his hurt, his disdain, his condescension, his obsession, as well as his love, are all quite apparent.  His words and actions to and toward his mother are quite revealing to the reader/viewer, even if Gertrude doesn't understand.       

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Hamlet's feelings toward his mother are complicated and conflicted and move from sympathy to hatred and back to sympathy through the course of the play. When he learns that his father has died and that Gertrude has married her dead husband's brother, Hamlet is concerned. After he sees his father's ghost, he is convinced that Claudius murdered the king, and he suspects his mother's involvement.  He is angry, horrified, and even somewhat jealous of his mother.  His anger wins out and he accuses his mother of complicity in his father's murder, at the same time, accidentally killing Polonius, who had been eavesdropping on their conversation.  He does not see how she can so easily switch her attentions from his father to his uncle, but Gertrude herself is a complicated character. She, like her son, is ambitious, and she knows that a woman alone or a woman with a son on the throne is fair game.  Hamlet loves and admires her, but his love cannot hold in the face of the murder of his father, and he cannot really forgive his mother for what she has done.

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Why is Hamlet angry at his mother?

Hamlet is angry at his mother because he considers her unfaithful to the memory of his father. King Hamlet had only been dead for about a month when his mother began to align herself to her former husband's brother, Claudius. They are quickly married, and Hamlet is devastated at her speedy courtship. In act 1, scene 2, Hamlet laments his mother's quick remarriage:

A little month, or ere those shoes were old
With which she followed my poor father's body,
Like Niobe, all tears—why she, even she
(O, God, a beast, that wants discourse of reason
Would have mourned longer!), married with my
uncle,
My father's brother, but no more like my father
Than I to Hercules. (1.2.151–158)

King Hamlet was respectable, and Hamlet feels that his mother has traded his father's memory for a man far less admirable. He even feels that Gertrude might be guilty of incest for her new relationship:

O, most wicked speed, to post
With such dexterity to incestuous sheets!
It is not, nor it cannot come to good.
But break, my heart, for I must hold my tongue. (1.2.151–164)

When Gertrude asks Hamlet to move past his father's death, she only angers Hamlet further. In fact, she comments that Hamlet has offended his father's memory by his actions in the palace, and he retorts, "Mother, you have my father much offended" (3.3.12–13).

In short, Hamlet feels that his mother has proven herself unfaithful to her former husband, a great King of Denmark, and that her new choice of husband isn't deserving of her love or of the crown. However, his anger toward her is tempered by the instructions of his father's ghost, who asks that Hamlet not seek retribution on Gertrude through his actions toward Claudius.

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Does Hamlet really hate his mother?

Hamlet is tumultuous in his feelings towards his mother.  He resents her for marrying Claudius and so soon after King Hamlet's death.  He displays anger with her actions in his treatment of her after the performance of The Mousetrap ("Mother, you have my father much offended"). Yet, in Act V, when he sees her swoon after drinking the poisoned wine, Hamlet attacks Claudius and avenges her death. 

His hatred is directly related to her actions; he appears to love her as a son should love his mother.  Her actions have angered and confused him, but Hamlet ultimately reveals a son's love for his mother when he kills Claudius.

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Does Hamlet really hate his mother?

Hamlet is conflicted. It is clear that they cared about each other prior to Gertrude's remarriage--she worries about his depression, and he worries about her lack of it. But though Hamlet wants her to be more morally upright, he does not wish harm to come to her and his father's ghost forbids him to punish her.

Hamlet is no more "in love" with his mother than Ophelia is in love with her father. The sexual references are no evidence of that--not once does he make reference to a sexual union between him and her, or even pun with them. His comments focus on how easy she is and fickle. (On the other hand, he does make sexually suggestive comments directed at Ophelia, asking her if she means "country matters" and if he should "lie" his "head upon" her lap).

Hamlet's sexual innuendo calls into question Gertrude's morality and her faithfulness. In this, he insults both her and Claudius, for they have both broken with protocol in their overhasty marriage. Nothing in the text indicates he is concerned about her faithfulness to him; it is her lack of faithfulness to his father that angers and upsets him.

This is a powerful argument in favour of his filial love for his mom because if he were indifferent toward her, he would not feel as deeply hurt, confused, and betrayed as he does.

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Does Hamlet really hate his mother?

Hamlet loves her and so at the beginning of the play is mostly cold to Claudius because she has failed her son: she remarried too quickly, tarnishing the image he has of his parents' love. However, as the play goes on, and Hamlet learns that Claudius killed his father. This disappointment turns to a more intense sense of betrayal and fury at her. Still, he doesn't know how much she knows, hence, the wild accusations in Act III. He's almost mad with anger at her because she betrayed him, her husband the King and the country.

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