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A Good Man Is Hard to Find

by Flannery O’Connor

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Themes: Family

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From the story’s opening, the family’s dynamic is a bit dysfunctional. The grandmother attempts to manipulate her family so that they will travel to her destination of choice, and her young granddaughter sarcastically comments that her grandmother “wouldn’t stay home for a million bucks.” The grandmother sneaks her cat into the car against her son’s wishes, and when she later realizes that she’s led the family down the incorrect road, she conceals this information. The children are self-entitled and whiny, kicking their father’s seat to get their way and commenting rudely that “Tennessee is just a hillbilly dumping ground.” There aren’t any particular signs of affection between any members of the family, and when the grandmother blurts out to the Misfit that she’s recognized his identity, her son harshly swears at her.

Yet in their final moments, this family demonstrates an affection for one another that they failed to exhibit in their ordinary lives. As Bailey is led away, it is his to mother that he calls out one final time, using the familiar term of endearment of “Mamma,” which conjures images of his relationship with her as a young boy. After hearing the gunshots ring out, the grandmother cries out “Bailey Boy,” perhaps remembering an earlier time when the bond she shared with her son was less fraught. Ultimately, this family’s fate is made all the more tragic by the fact they they appear to only truly comprehend their love for one another in their final moments.

Notably, the definition of family is also expanded in the final scene as the grandmother accepts the Misfit as a member of her family. In her final moment of clarity, she recognizes that she is as flawed as the Misfit, and her understanding of family is expanded to include humanity as a whole.

Expert Q&A

How is the family's stop at Red Sammy's barbecue, and his character, essential to the rest of the story?

Red Sammy's barbecue restaurant and the character of Red Sammy himself are absolutely essential to what happens in the rest of the story.

How is the family in the story typical in terms of common family tensions and conflicts?

The grandmother and the children are typical in that each has their own perspective on things. The children don't respect the grandmother, and she thinks of them as brats. The parents see the situation as more complex, acknowledging the needs of all involved.

In "A Good Man is Hard to Find," what family qualities should be taken seriously?

In "A Good Man is Hard to Find," the story emphasizes the importance of taking the family's spiritual well-being seriously. O'Connor suggests that people often contemplate their souls only when faced with death, advocating for living with constant awareness of mortality. Additionally, the family's dynamics, marked by manipulation and bickering, reflect realistic and relatable qualities. These elements highlight the significance of introspection and genuine relationships amid life's uncertainties and moral dilemmas.

In "A Good Man is Hard to Find," would the family have survived if the old woman hadn't recognized The Misfit?

The family's survival in "A Good Man is Hard to Find" is uncertain, as there is no definitive evidence that The Misfit would have spared them if the grandmother hadn't recognized him. Although The Misfit suggests recognition sealed their fate, his need for a new car and the risk of being identified likely meant he intended to kill them regardless. Thus, the grandmother's recognition may not have changed the outcome.

Why are the grandmother's family members murdered in the woods in "A Good Man Is Hard to Find"?

The grandmother's family is murdered in the woods due to her manipulative actions, which lead them into danger. In "A Good Man Is Hard to Find," the grandmother's self-centered decisions, such as insisting on detours and engaging with strangers, ultimately bring them into contact with The Misfit. The family members are taken out of sight to be killed, reducing the emotional impact and potential struggle, while the grandmother selfishly pleads for her life.

The relationship between the grandmother and Bailey in "A Good Man Is Hard to Find."

The relationship between the grandmother and Bailey in "A Good Man Is Hard to Find" is strained and tense. The grandmother is manipulative and critical, often attempting to control Bailey and his family's decisions. Bailey, in turn, shows signs of frustration and impatience with his mother's behavior, highlighting a lack of mutual respect and understanding between them.

What specific actions or remarks in the opening section of the story suggest that the family is dysfunctional or "dead"?

O'Connor's opening pages are carefully crafted. She takes time to introduce us to the family and their car trip, yet she also makes clear that something is wrong with them. The grandmother (Gran) is a somewhat eccentric woman who lives in her memories of the past, but she is neglected by the rest of the family. Although they are not cruel to her, they do not listen to her or want to be with her. The children and even Bailey (the father) seem obsessed with comic books and TV shows--a sign that they have lost touch with reality. The grandmother's voice is always present throughout this story, but we rarely see Gran herself; instead she appears in descriptions by other characters.

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