Compare Anne's relationship with her mother and father in The Diary of Anne Frank.

The Diary of Anne Frank sheds light on the life of a young Jewish girl in hiding during World War II. While much of her situation is unusual, there are still many things that Anne experiences just like any other adolescent. Anne experiences the trials of sisterhood, intimacy with someone she likes, and—perhaps most normal of all—very dynamic relationships with her parents.

From the beginning of their time in hiding, Anne has a close relationship with her father, Otto Frank, often lovingly referring to him as Pim. It is Otto who gave his daughter the famous diary in which Anne details their time in hiding and which will be published after the war. In one of her very first entries, Anne describes talking to her father about staying safe in hiding, and her tone indicates that she feels safe and at ease knowing that they are in hiding together. Her mother, on the other hand, is described as “unbearable” in the very same entry. “She insists on treating me like a baby, which I loathe,” Anne writes. Like most girls her age, Anne resents her mother for attempting to coddle and care for her. When expressing concern or care for her daughter, Mrs. Frank is very often dismissed or met with aggression from Anne.

Much of this aggression toward her mother seems to be rooted in the fact that Anne perceives her older sister, Margot, to be the “perfect” daughter. Like many younger siblings, Anne feels that she is constantly compared to her older sister, especially by her mother. In an argument Anne documents between herself and her mother, she writes that she feels like everything her sister does is right and everything she does is wrong. She believes that her mother is “against her” and that Margot is the better-liked daughter. Often Otto appears in Anne’s diary to come to her aid in conflicts with her mother. He is the parent that “gets her.” In January of 1944, after roughly a year and a half in hiding, Anne writes, “Mother still does not understand me. But then I don’t understand her either.” During their time in the annex, their relationship is unchanged.

At this same time, Anne and Peter Van Daan begin to grow close, finding comfort in having someone the same age to share their experiences with. This budding relationship leads to arguments early on between Anne and her mother. Mrs. Frank practically begs Anne to show some modesty and talk with Peter in the common area, not behind closed doors. Anne stays true to her feelings and tells her mother that she is not doing anything wrong and does not care what anyone, especially the nosy Mrs. Van Daan, has to say about her and Peter.

One can infer that an underlying reason why Anne and her mother continuously butt heads is that they are both stubborn and act on emotions. In this particular argument about Peter, Mrs. Frank fears how the situation looks and how her daughter's actions are observed by others, while Anne fears that the one friend she has will be taken from her. Both women are firm in their opinions and stand their ground before Otto steps in. Often, Otto is described as comforting Anne after arguments with her mother, or getting between the two of them in a disagreement with a simple “Anne, please.” He acts as a peacemaker between his wife and their youngest daughter.

Compare Anne's relationship with her mother and father in The Diary of Anne Frank.

Anne's relationship with her mother has some similarities with her relationship with her father.  She does love them both as her parents, and does understand that her mother is trying her best with Anne.  I believe that her relationship with her mother is much like any mother with a 13 year old; as the child grows toward adulthood and begins the process of becoming an adult herself, conflict does occur.  The close confines of the Annex make it doubly hard for Anne and her mother to relate.  Her relationship with her father is loving and understanding.  He teaches her, laughs with her, and is more relaxed with her.

The contrast between Anne's relationship with her mother and father is quite pronounced.  Anne always turns to her father for comfort even though she knows it hurts her mother.  When Anne has the nightmare and wakes screaming, her mother arrives first and Anne asks for her father.  Anne gets her schooling from her father which is a normal activity.  When Anne makes noise just because she is 13, her mother scolds her which makes Anne feel like she cannot do anything which pleases her mother. 

At the end of the story or the beginning of the play, we find out that the only survivor of The Annex is the father.  He is anxious to find any of his family but most of all, he hopes that Anne is still alive.  This illustrates for us as nothing else does, that Anne's relationship with her father was as strong for him as it was for her.  This is the death that truly shakes him to the core.

How does Anne's relationship with her father change in The Diary of Anne Frank?

In The Diary of Anne Frank, Anne starts off feeling a close identity to her father. He is, for her and others, a fount of optimism and comfort, making him easier for her to get along with than her mother. She is thrilled when he gives her a diary. She shows him affection by throwing her arms around him. He is able to comfort her about being in the annex by reminding her of the advantages that come with it, such as no more galoshes or piano practice. When she has a nightmare, she insists that her father is the one she loves best, hurting her mother's feelings.

However, Anne and her father's relationship grows more distant as he deals with adult concerns such as a possible blackmailer who might betray the families to the Gestapo. Meanwhile, Anne becomes more romantically involved with Peter. In the actual diary, she is concerned that her father sees her as his little girl rather than as a real person, but this complexity is not part of the dynamic of the play, which necessarily must leave out much of what occurred.

At the end of the play, her father gets the last word about Anne. Anne is dead, but he states that at first, at least, Anne was glad to be in the fresh air of the concentration camp in Holland. He also reads her diary comment about believing people are good and says she puts him to "shame." Through her diary he begins to understand her as he didn't during her life.

What kind of relationship does Anne have with her father in The Diary of Anne Frank? How do you know this?

While Anne Frank endured a troubled relationship with her mother, she and her father always got along well, and they grew exceptionally close during their time in the annex. Later, however, it seems that Anne became frustrated that her father did not realize that she was growing up. The ultimate proof of Anne and Otto's closeness is that it is thanks to Otto Frank's love for his daughter and his determination that her story be told that her diary was published after the war.

Early on, Anne makes it clear that there is no one in the world whom she loves more than she loves her father. In fact, thirteen-year-old Anne tells us that her father is the only person in the world who she loves. She wishes for a closer relationship with him in which her father loves her in her own right rather than loving her simply because she is his daughter. We know that she trusts him implicitly because it is to her father's side that she flees when frightened by bombs and planes.

Later, however, she begins to recognize that her father is not perfect. We know this because she becomes upset that he does not take her "well-considered theories" seriously and starts to make her feel like she is a child. She feels frustrated because he treats Margot differently to how he treats her. She feels that he does not take her seriously the way he does Margot.