In your opinion, how can one predict the result of the relationship with a roommate? What are some potential challenges a person might face while living with another person? What are some things a...

In your opinion, how can one predict the result of the relationship with a roommate?

What are some potential challenges a person might face while living with another person? What are some things a person could do in order to live happily with each other? Please explain in detail as much as you can. Thank you very much!

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clairewait | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Educator Emeritus

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In my experience, the roommates who get along the best are not the ones who are best friends.  Ironically, roommates who have similar living expectations in common but don't have a lot of social similarities seem to have the most mutual respect for each other, the space, and each other's time and privacy.

One situation that happens a lot with roommates living with each other for the first time is crossing the boundary with sharing personal information outside of the house.  If you live with roommates long enough, they almost become like family.  But because they are NOT family, often disagreements and fights take place because in sharing a small space you get to know very personal information about each other, but because you haven't grown up together, often sensitive stuff is not taken seriously - and people's feelings get hurt.

I was a resident assistant in a women's dorm for two years in college.  Ironically, the roommates who got along the best were the ones who saw each other the least.  Another thing that helped many girls was making a "chore chart" - or at least having a plan of who would do what and when when it came to housekeeping tasks (ie: cleaning, bills, food, etc).

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dano7744 | College Teacher | (Level 2) Educator

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We can't predict the future nor how we will get along with potential roomies. Some people you know are fine as friends but when sharing a home things turn out quite different. Try to laysome ground rules before you move in together and further try to consider these points. How well do you know this potential roomie ? What do you know about their background ? Establish in advance monetary arrangements, ie. who exactly is going to pay for what? Disagreements over the bills are always a hurdle to overcome but if you talk about this in advance perhaps you can circumvent the issue. Finding a successful roomie situation is possible but put a little effort in before you take the plunge so to speak. You will find that this effort will pay off huge dividends in the long run.Good Luck.

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missy575 | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Educator Emeritus

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If you are considering roommates past high school, you can use your past experience with the person if they are your friend. For example, if you have ever been in their room, you would likely be able to see how clean they will be. If you know how well they've kept a job, you would likely know how well they will be able to keep up with rent and the shared expenses of utilities.

Some potential challenges would include:

  • tolerance of noise
  • tolerance of bringing visitors to your place
  • cleanliness
  • shared finances
  • ability to communicate
  • ability to respect property and privacy
  • ability to cooperate

To live effectively with a roommate, make sure you sit down in advance and cooperatively lay ground rules together so that you both or all know the boundaries that you agree to.

Living in a new place without your parents for the first time is a great challenge, but at the same time, it requires some parenting of yourselves. Good luck!

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