If you were going to marry someone, would you pick a smart person or a rich person? Why?

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I would pick the person that I most cared about. Although I would want someone who was my intellectual equal so that there was not strain in the relationship, that is not necessarily important. It depends on the people. I would not marry a person just for money, but I also would not marry a person with a bad track record with money. Nothing causes strain in a relationship more with issues of money.
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How much better this would be if this question were merely a rhetorical one.  Sadly, it seems a reflection of the materialistic times in which we are immersed.  Certainly, there have been movies made about women or men who have sought mates who qualify solely on the one criteria of being rich, but they usually are comedies.

The famous director, Elie Kazan, said that it is the struggles in life that give people their mettle, that "makes them."  Profoundly true.  The cliche, "money does not buy happiness is also true."  If you are intelligent, you will be compatible with an intelligent person.  If you have common sense and "smarts," you will be compatible to one who also have pratical sense and wisdom.  Think how much prouder you will be of yourself--what a better person you will be for the struggle--if you earn what you achieve and acquire in life.

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If by smart you can include witty then being smart is a better basis for a relationship than money. My husband and I have gone from having lots of money and no time together to little money and a great lifestyle together. We have existed through some very bleak times but have weathered each storm with laughter and humour. Time together is better than money or anything it can buy - if you are with the right person.

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I would pick the person I fell in love with and who loved me, whether rich or poor, smart or not so smart. Love doesn't care about bank accounts or IQs. Love just happens. I'm still waiting for it to happen!!

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I married a young lady who definitely was not rich. She is smart, but even in the heat of my infatuation I never thought that she was exceptionally smart. The fact that she agreed to marry me also tended to make me question just how smart she is ;). We are still happily married 24 years later. We only disagree 2-3 times a day, raise our voices once or twice a week, really feel like killing each other once or twice a year. As far as I can tell, this is an excellent record. By the way, we have not become rich over the years, but hard work has helped us move ahead financially in a very significant way. So, it's not smarts or wealth, or even looks that make a good marriage. It's love and patience and tolerance. Oh my, what a LOT of patience and tolerance! But the love makes it worthwhile.
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Well, there's that old line that goes something like this; if you're going to be unhappy and down on your luck, it's better to be so with a lot of money. That said, I will add this recommendation: marry someone from a good family, a happy family, a family that is intact and loving. Does the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with get along well with his or her mother, father, sisters and brothers? Is there genuine love, caring and kindness in the family? When you marry an individual, do you marry a family? In many ways, yes you do.
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Admittedly, my first answer was to say "money" simply because I was under the assumption that the person who makes a good fortune does it because he was smart enough to make it happen. I will just for the moment still stick to my answer, and I completely eliminate potential heirs, ugly, unloving, violent, or weird individuals.

Just the entire package, please?

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I think it would be great if the person you (or I) marry turns out to be both rich and intelligent. But I'm not sure that either of them are the two most important aspects of choosing a mate. I find a compatible personality and a finely tuned sense of humor to be far more desirable traits in a companion. I agree with one of the other posts that an uneducated ("stupid") person would probably not find a highly intelligent mate a very good fit; although, again, if the personality and sense of humor clicks, the rest is moot. The same could be said for a person's wealth; if you are wealthy, why would you necessarily desire a wealthy mate? There are many other aspects that can come into play, depending upon the individuals--religion, occupation, physical attraction, etc. Each person will look at the many character traits of their better half in a different light, so viva la difference.

 

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I don't think either of these is the right answer because what you really need is a person who is right for you.  And if you're stupid, a smart person might not be right for you.

But of the two options given, I would definitely take a smart person.  I think that having someone who is relatively smart to share your life, who can think and talk about things is much more important than being rich.  Of course, that comes from the point of view of someone who is not poor.  If I were really poor, I imagine the money would seem more important.

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You will receive different justifications on each side of the issue.  If all things were able to be considered equal, one could have both and not make a specific choice.  I am going to collapse down to the predictable one and say that choosing a smart person might be better.  One particular reason would be that money is transitory, as the individuals who might be wealthy today could be poor tomorrow.  This is only heightened with the current economic crisis where there are few people who are immune from the loss of money.  Choosing someone smart would be important because this is a characteristic which is not necessarily contingent on economic conditions.  If one wanted to be cynical and jaded, choosing the smart person would be the best because they would have the "smarts" to figure out how to become wealthy.

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