The Republican candidate for President feels that women with children should work. This is his most recent statement about mothers who need welfare support:
We will do everything in our power to make sure that people who are on welfare have an opportunity and an obligation to go to work, not after two years but from day one if we could.
(I assume he means women since they are the ones who have the children.) I am not sure what he means by the day one. Hopefully, it is not the day after having the baby. No woman who has a child should have to work if at all possible. If the woman is married, that has become their number two most important job...now I know that the husband comes first. I wish I had known it in my first marriage.
As a wife, mother, and teacher, my life probably represents the 1970-1980's generation that really did not know what the woman should be doing. My mother did not work outside the home, so she did not clue me in on my obligations. When I left my daughter at the babysitter's for the first time, she was three months old. I only taught half day, but I felt very guilty leaving my little precious one.
In fact, I would have given anything not to have worked. I married a teacher and in 1970, when my daughter was born, my husband was making $5, 700 dollars a year. We were poverty stricken. I really do not know how we paid the bills. Anyway, I can honestly say that I was not prepared to be a wife and mother; and I did not want to be a working woman.
As much as I was educated in my career field, I was oblivious to groups that might have had information to help a woman cope with the problems that I faced as the wife, mother,,,,
9to5, National Association of Working Women is an organization established in 1973 that is dedicated to improving working conditions and ensuring the rights of women and families in the United States
Foolishly, I can remember grading papers night after night (I taught high school honors English) with everyone else watching television. We ate a lot of fast food meals during the week. All the housework was saved for the weekend. Where did that leave my husband and daughter?
In the beginning, my husband helped with the housework. He never cooked, but he did run the vacuum and pickup. When my daughter was about 8, my husband announced that I had a built in helper; so he was done with housework.
My daughter and I were extremely close, sharing things that probably should have been shared with my husband. He was more interested in coaching (I coached too.) her to the league championships in softball and soccer. That ended his involvement.
I also went to school a lot to get my masters degrees. So obviously, there went more of my time. It did force my husband to take my daughter to eat once a week and spend a little personal time with her.
Here is the important part: On the day my daughter graduated from college, her father said, "Better get a job because I am divorcing your mother." After twenty-five years of marriage and without any preface, the man was ready to move on to another pasture (figuratively).
I attribute my story to working outside the home. If I had been able to be a better wife by working at it harder and being there more, my marriage would never have ended. My daughter and I are the best of friends. I was a good mother...I do not how, but I was a success at that.
Can women make all three jobs work together? Yes, it happens everyday. In my ancient world, we did not know how to divide up the time. I know this because so many of my friends did not have successful marriages either.
Of course, a man who communicates his feelings would help as well. Anyway, I agree with the discussion, but....oh well, you know my story.