Why are parents so over-protective? I'm about to be 17, I can't do nothing, go anywhere. I barly have friends. I just want to get out and enjoy my teenage life. I know how to be careful. Help me, please.

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"Can't do anything, can't go anywhere, and barely have friends" is certainly no way to live your teenage years. As someone mentioned earlier, try discussing some of these issues with your parents. See if you all can come up with some guidelines and compromises. You are about to be an...

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"Can't do anything, can't go anywhere, and barely have friends" is certainly no way to live your teenage years. As someone mentioned earlier, try discussing some of these issues with your parents. See if you all can come up with some guidelines and compromises. You are about to be an adult very soon, and it's great to have some preparation and independence as you go into the world.

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Some parents may tend to be over protective. As far as why yours are, why don't you ask them? As a parent myself, I can say that the world holds many dangers to children. I trust my children but I do not trust the world. Parents want to keep their kids safe, happy, and healthy.

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Parents are often over protective without realizing it.  They just want to protect their children.  They might even want to keep their children from making some of the same mistakes that they did.  As a teen, I always thought my parents were way to over-protective.  In some ways they were, but in many ways they really weren't as crazy as I thought they were.  I'm actually grateful for the protection they offered and the trouble they kept me out of.  If you feel that your parents are being unreasonable, try talking to them calmly about it.  Share you thoughts and listen to theirs.  It might not change their minds but at least you will have shared how you feel and taken a chance that they will come your way a little.

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Parents seem overly protective because they can imagine all kinds of horrible things happening to their kids that the kids never consider to be possible. Most of the time those horrible things (drug use, pregnancy, kidnapping, getting hit by cars in the road, etc) don't happen, but every once in a while they do. It's that "every once in a while that parents can't forget about.

It's true that parents are often overprotective, but it's equally true that kids often don't have a realistic sense of their own mortality and the dangers that surround them everyday.

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There's no way to answer this well because we don't really know what exactly your parents will let you do and won't let you do.  I suppose what you need to do is to think of specific things you want to do and talk to your parents about those.  That way, you guys can talk about something specific and you can give reasons why you should be able to do that.  That's better than having to say to them "you never let me do anything..."

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As a parent of a teenage girl, I can see where you are coming from. The answer I always give my daughter refers to the fact that it is not that I do not trust her; instead, I have a hard time trusting other people (especially those I do not know).

My job, as a parent, is to insure that my children are raised right (according to our family's morals), have the things that they need (food, shelter, clothing), and know about making good choices in life.

Essentially, a parent's job is to insure that his or her children are living safe lives. That being said, the world is a place where harm can lurk around every corner. Parents are just being careful--while it may seem to the child, that they are being far too over-protective.

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