Mama, the narrator, ultimately gives the family quilts to Maggie instead of Dee (Wangero) because she recognizes that Dee gets everything she wants, that she's even already claimed the quilts as her own, because they were promised to Maggie, and because Maggie is the daughter who wants them for the right reasons. When Dee insists that she get to keep the quilts that she holds just out of Mama's reach, Maggie actually agrees to let her keep them, saying "'I can 'member Grandma Dee without the quilts.'" Mama sees that Maggie is the daughter who truly understands and appreciates her family and her heritage; Dee doesn't know the stories like Maggie does, and she only want the quilts so that she can hang them on the wall.
For Mama and Maggie, family history isn't something to be used as decoration; heritage is very much alive for them in the present: when they use handmade benches and butter churn and quilts. Dee just wants something to show off, some proof of something in her past, not to cherish that history now. At this point, Mama snatches the quilts from Dee and drops them into Maggie's lap, claiming the feeling is like "when [she's] in church and the spirit of God touches [her] and [she] get[s] happy and shout[s]." She seems to have always favored Dee -- hoping for an emotional television-style reunion, raising money to send her away to school, buying her fancy clothes, and so forth -- but now she seems to really appreciate Maggie, having realized that Maggie is the one who really loves her family and does so for the right reasons. In the end, she says, "the two of us just sat there enjoying [...]."