Why do you think Jane is more comfortable with Mr.Rochester when he is rude to her?

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Rudeness is familiar to Jane; kindness is not. Ironically, people can be more comfortable with negative situations if there is a familiarity to them.  And, although she is not the equal of Mr. Rochester, his stepping out of bounds allows her to do so, too.

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I agree with post 3 that Mr. Rochester's attitude allows Jane equal footing in the conversation. I would also venture to suggest that Jane is probably much more comfortable with rudeness than kindness. She has not experienced much kindness in her life and does not understand it. She is certainly more comfortable with rudeness because she is better accustomed to it. Jane has known so little kindness that she is almost distrusting of it. She does not understand it in the same way she understand neglect and rudeness.
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In a sense, Jane is a character who finds it easier to respond to rudeness than she does gentleness. What she likes about Rochester and the way that they interact is that it gives her the opportunity to speak the truth and not feel confined by social niceties and expectations. This is something that she has always struggled with. Rochester gives her the chance to be herself.

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Ironically, when Mr. Rochester is rude to Jane, he is treating her as an equal and, in a sense, giving her the right to respond as an equal. He appreciates and enjoys her honesty, partly because he is honest himself. He is a "no-nonsense" sort of person, and he enjoys seeing that same quality reflected back at him in Jane.  Their discussions are often quite humorous for this reason.

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Jane is tough. She was always independent minded and very smart, but her life experiences made her even more hardened. Jane speaks her mind, and this pleases the eccentric Mr. Rochester. I think Jane sees through his rudeness. Victorian flirting!
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