Why do teenager blow stuff out of proportion?no

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jmj616 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I am not a psychologist, but I was once a teenager, so I'll offer my opinion on this.

Teenagers are young, and most of the things that happen to them are first-time experiences.  Think of the following experiences:

a) falling in love

b) breaking up with someone you loved

c) getting a good job

d) losing a good job

e) losing a beloved relative or friend

f) trying hard at a job, a project, a sports contest -- and failing.

By the time you reach 40, you will probably have been through these experiences several times.  You'll know that the joyful experiences do not make life problem-free forever, and the painful experiences do tend to fade with time.

For a teenager, though, all these experiences are fresh and new.  They tend to take the joy and the pain and "blow stuff out of proportion."  It's not their fault.  They are simply "feeling life" in a stronger, sharper way than most adults.

mkcapen1 | Student

Adolescence is a very difficult time for young ones.  It is a time when cognitively one develops additional intellect and intensity of sensations.  It is also a time when each and everything is felt deeper than before.  Part of the reason for the reason for the over responses in situations has a lot to do with this.

However, it is very important to begin practicing self control and working on the skills that will carry you in to adulthood.  There always two sides to problems so if one person keeps his cool half the battle is already won.  I know this is easier said than done, but practice does help.

Most important of all is avoiding petty gossip.