Why do people lie?i am really confused!!

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litteacher8 | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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People lie because there is some advantage to it.  If there is no benefit to lying, the only reason a person would lie is out of habit.  Otherwise, a person will lie because there is a reason to lie.  For example, you lie because you don't want to hurt a person's feelings.  You lie to avoid angering someone.  You might also lie to avoid doing something.  All of these reasons to lie involve some benefit to lying.

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mwestwood | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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Tennesse Williams's expressionist play "The Glass Menagerie" explores people's need to create illusion amidst reality.  Each of the three characters in this play have a weakness.  When, as Wordsworth says, "The world is too much with us," people often create illusions by altering what they perceive to fit their own needs or desires.  This altering of the truth--lying--can have devastating effects upon both them and others around them.

People lie because they are weak; they may be afraid of the consequences of telling the truth, they may be afraid of hurting someone's feelings, they may be afraid of facing harsh reality.  The word integrity incorporates both of the opposite traits of a liar:  strength of character; honesty.

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pmiranda2857 | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Educator Emeritus

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People lie for many reasons.  Some people lie to protect themselves from getting in trouble, or to cover up inappropriate behavior that is morally wrong or criminal. For example, a teenager will lie to his parents about what time he came home, because he knows he will get in trouble for coming home late.  He tries to get away with the behavior, because he feels that he can fool his parents. 

People lie to protect other people.  Some people lie to protect other people from learning the truth because they are afraid what will happen, how an individual will react when he learns the truth.   An individual will lie because, for example, your friend got a bad haircut, so, instead of making the situation worse, you tell her that her hair doesn't look that bad.

People lie to make themselves look good, they exaggerate their accomplishments with the hope that they will impress someone. Kids lie about their skills at sports, or about how much they can drink to impress a friend.  Adults lie about their weight or how hard they work.

This list can go one and on, because people all lie for different reasons.    

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megnieman | Elementary School Teacher | eNotes Newbie

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I believe people also lie to make themselves feel better about a situation. If something isn't going their way, a lot of times people will tell a lie to make things switch around.

Also, people tell lies to fit in with people. This is something that I have noticed alot in my classroom. My students are in elementary school, and they tell lies more than they tell the truth at times. It is usually that their friend asks if they have done something, and the student will tell a lie to make their friend happy. Also,  I have heard many stories that were completely fabricated.  I feel that these stories are sort of an attention seeker.

Then there is also the lie that people tend to tell to get themselves out of trouble. If they did something wrong, most people would not want to take the punishment for their actions and they would lie to get out of it. This happens with both children and adults.

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ashbeautyful | Student, Grade 9 | eNotes Newbie

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People lie because......let's say that your friend gave you a toy to borrow for 2 days and then you unexpectedely lost it...so the next day your friend asks it back but you said  that you forgot to bring it, you said a lie because you wanted to give an excuse so that person will forgive.

There are many reasons people lie like.........to give an excuse, to solve the problem.

We say that people cannot live without lying!

But we should not tell lies!

 

Gurl its krazii!! Im sick of lies... dnt do sumn thts gonna make u or tht person lie... its kinda hard to explain but i've been through it so mmaannyy times hun! Once a liar always a liar! U kinda have to get tht n ur head. ;)

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cullenlvernwat | Student, Grade 9 | (Level 1) eNoter

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People lie not because they have to, but because they want to. If your life is bad compared to someone else's, you may lie just to sound interesting, smart, exciting, etc. Sometimes people lie because they aren't happy with their own life, so if they lie to people about their life, then they will sometimes believe their own lie and be a little more self confident.

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clisty | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 3) eNoter

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People lie because......let's say that your friend gave you a toy to borrow for 2 days and then you unexpectedely lost it...so the next day your friend asks it back but you said  that you forgot to bring it, you said a lie because you wanted to give an excuse so that person will forgive.

There are many reasons people lie like.........to give an excuse, to solve the problem.

We say that people cannot live without lying!

But we should not tell lies!

 

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kmieciakp | High School Teacher | (Level 2) Assistant Educator

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People lie because they have free will--lying reminds us that we have choices, that we are in control of ourselves.  Lying assures us our privacy and protects our individuality; lying draws a line between me and you.  However, since we all know we all have the ability to lie, lying ironically connects us with the common knowledge of our shared desire to be perfect, with our shared longing to hide our imperfections.  Thus, though lying momentarily frees an individual from our shared shame of being human, knowing we all lie affords us the empathy to forgive the lie once revealed in and reconciled to shame.

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