As the previous Educators have mentioned, it is the voice of a mother which dominates the narrative, which is a monologue. We know that it's more than likely a mother speaking, as opposed to a grandmother, an older sister, or an aunt, due to the admonishing tone of someone who is worried that, if the girl misbehaves, it'll reflect poorly back on her. The speaker also tells the girl how to iron her father's khaki shirt and pants—a task that would have usually been performed by a wife.
The other Educators have discussed the narrator's focus on propriety, but the speaker also passes down key aspects of culture, particularly cuisine and home remedies:
this is how to make a bread pudding; this is how to make doukona; this is how to make pepper pot; this is how to make a good medicine for a cold; this is how to make a good medicine to throw away a child before it even becomes a child . . .
The repetition of "this is how" stresses to the girl that there is a particular way to do something. This...
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