Which one is better "blood relation or friendship?"Which one is better "blood relation or friendship?"

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Noelle Thompson eNotes educator| Certified Educator

In the immortal words of my late Grandmother-in-law (whom I called Me-Maw), "Noelle, if you remember one thing, remember this:  it's all about family."  Any little thing can affect a friendship (in either a positive or a negative way); however, family will always be family.  No matter what you do and no matter what they do, they will always be there.  You can vent.  You can make mistakes.  You can share joys.  You can live life.  Family is family. 

I find it interesting, though, that you ask which is "better."  In my opinion, the immortal bond of family is always better, but yeah, I couldn't live life without friends.  They are a giver of joy as well.  However, a person like me, who lives and breathes in memories and traditions, . . . those are not the times shared with friends.  And yet, friends are those who hear about those times AFTER the fact.

What a blessing it is for those who have both true family and true friends, huh?

drmonica eNotes educator| Certified Educator

There's a saying, you don't get to choose your family, but you can pick your friends. As I have gotten older, I have learned which of my family members I know I can count on, and fortunately that is most of them. However, I do have a couple of family members that I wouldn't trust as far as I could pick them up and throw them. I have some friends who as close to me as any sibling, closer actually than two of my siblings. Although the ideal is that family will stand by you no matter what, that is not always the reality.

goreadabook eNotes educator| Certified Educator
Which one is better "blood relation or friendship?"

Which one is better "blood relation or friendship?"

  I believe it's whatever is more important to you.  Sometimes friends can be as close to us and as important to us as blood relatives and sometimes blood relatives can mean nothing to us.  Relationships are subjective and whatever is most important to you is what matters.  It's a case by case basis.  You can't say that one way is accuration 100% of the time.

M.P. Ossa eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I agree in that friendship is better, especially if you come from a dysfunctional family where the blood relations act less than family. In those cases, friends might be the only thing that won't make you feel like you were born into a circus.  As with everything, is not the title that you carry, but the way you portray it.  Think about how many mothers are out there abandoning kids while ghood friends of the family foster for the children. Its all about the commitment to the relationship.

litchick2011 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

You would think that with blood relationships that you can always love and trust that person because you are kin, but unfortunately, that is not always the case. I am very close to my family, so in my opinion, blood is much stronger, but that is certainly not the case for a number of people. Friendship is better simply because it is (or should be) a relationship based on common interests, respect, and trust. You can pick your friends, which is certainly not the case with family.

joe30pl eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I remember a quote that perhaps sums this up: "I love my family. I just don't like them." One could make an argument for both, but family is something that you have no control over. The bonds between family will exist forever. Now, if you decide to sever those ties, that is up to you. The bonds between friends can be deep, true, but they can also be fleeting.

I would go with both but it would depend on the individual members.

alohaspirit eNotes educator| Certified Educator

Yes this is an opinion type of question.  In my opinion I would think that it depends on the person.  You can have parents that are deadbeats and do not really care about their children and abuse them, that obviously would not be a healthy relationship.  I have some friendships that are healthier relationships than my own parents.  In the end its the individual not blood.

askandanswer | Student

I'm writing this from experience so it could be very subjective.

Following my experience I'd have to say friendship.

Yes "your" family which just consists of your mother and father and your siblings will be always there no matter what. Especially the parents since they sometimes seem to know you than you yourself.

However "blood relations" in general means cousins and aunts and uncles and so on. I have discovered through out my life that these blood relations seemed to cause more trouble. Because of the "blood lineage" we are bonded in a mandatory way.  

Friendships are what I choose. And its these friends that I chose who match my personality, goes through the bad and good times together. Blood relationships, however, are those that are just there and it is these relationships that seem to come and go.

Friends require help that I would be doing voluntarily. Blood require help that sometimes I would be doing involuntarily but will be forced by the "same blood" chain.

epollock | Student

While it is true that you "don't get to pick your parents," you can "pick your chlldren (through adoption." But no matter whether your family is close or estranged, they are the only relatives you have and you should strive to make sure that your family relations endure.  You can only do so much.  

epollock | Student

I would say blood relations are always better because you only have one family. Friendships can come and go, but families are from history and tradition.

This reminds me of the question: which came first--the chicken or the egg? And the answer is: the chicken.  Actually has to come before potentiality. Family is now, friendships can develop. 

krishna-agrawala | Student

I believe the closest and most important relationship for most of the people is that between husband and wife. If you are too young to be married, you can think of this as the relationship that exists between parents.

Clearly this is not a blood relationship. It is not appropriate to call it just a friendship also. So how good or bad a relationship does not depend on whether it is a friendship or blood relationship. It depends on the effort and care put in to make the relationship work, to make it satisfying, useful and long lasting.

kc4u | Student

Blood relationship is good, but friendship is better. Blood relationship is something given to you; you don't have a freedom to choose, the freedom to know a person, to accept or reject, to share anything and everything. There is a chance of a good friend turning into a foe; but the same may happen in case of a blood relation of yours. You may have heard of the famous line of Shakespeare:'the near in blood, the nearer bloody'. There is no problem if blood relationship is friendly, because friendliness is the true essence of all relatioships.

seamanretriver1212 | Student

that may be true but dont you ever feel like you have to like them

branbran | Student

In my opinion a blood relationship is better then a friendship. Friends will come and go, but family will always be there. In your life you will come across friends who may stay in your life forever and then you have those who may be in your life for only a short time. Family will always be your family. even if you dont see them all the time, you will always know that they are there waiting for you when you need them.

seamanretriver1212 | Student

this is only based on ones opinion but in my opinion blood realetions you have to like them freind ship is a choice thats all i got