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When communication ends, the "green-eyed monster" of several of the seven deadly sins rises. There is something of silence and disregard for others that breeds the seeds of conflict, for whatever reasons.
In a relationship, for example, lack of communication is the beginning of the end.
A good example I can cite from my own experience is what happened to me before I decided to get a divorce. Both, my ex husband and myself, were changing a lot because we both had gone back to school and became professionals. More responsibilities laid in our laps and it seemed as if we were not the same couple that met in a carefree and happy place anymore. Instead of facing the music and talking about it, we shove it under the rug and continued life as usual, as if we were STILL the same two people who had met 14 years prior. Nope, we weren't..and what is worse, we were not willing to admit it.
So, we thought that the reason why we weren't speaking much is because we disliked each other, or the marriage. Little did we know it was because we simply grew up in different directions. If only we had COMMUNICATED we would have avoided the many arguments and confrontations that were the REAL things that hurt our relationship. So is life....
I don't know that I would say it's that immediate, but it's a fairly short chain of events between the two, that's for sure. when communication stops, miscommunication begins, and misunderstandings, and all the precursors to actual conflict. The longer the lack of communication persists, the faster the buildup of conflict, and the more explosive it can be.
I think anyone in any relationship can provide ample evidence of the truth of this statement. It is those relationships or marriages where communication has ceased that feature conflict and often end prematurely. Communication breaks down barriers between people, whereas silence or lack of communication builds them up as we are left to form our own assumptions and stereotypes about the other person. This all divides us from them further, making conflict much easier and more likely to happen.
I would have to agree with the statement. When there is an absence of communication, there exists a greater chance for misunderstanding and deep seeded anger to be harbored. In these settings, communication is the only way to be able to articulate frustrations and emotions so that they can be addressed and understood fully. In situations where there is misunderstanding and challenge, silence becomes one of the worst elements because it creates a realm where individuals' disagreements move into the realm of conflicts. There is no guarantee that communication and articulation can solve these rifts, but there is a greater chance of them being remedied with open discussion. In the words of Justice Brandeis, these settings prove that "sunlight is the best disinfectant."
The quotation "Where communication stops, conflict begins.." is a very succinct one in terms of summing up many truths in a nutshell. There is nothing like misunderstandings and frustration for causing conflict - people's buttons are pressed unnecessarily, voices are raised, blood pressure goes up and sometimes people's feelings of imagined hurt, insult or offence run so high that they come to blows and resort to violence because they cannot articulate their greivance or get their message across. It takes people so long to calm down that there is often a lot of unnecessary harm done along the way. Far better to communicate openly, freely and clearly in the first place. However, verbal communication does not come easliy to everyone - there is some evidence to suggest that men/boys are slower with this, so maybe there is scope to pre-empt conflict resolution issues by starting younger in schools with sharing, diplomatic skills and social interaction skills.
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