What were the things you enjoyed doing that made you forget about being afraid,sad,or angry?What were the things you enjoyed doing that made you forget about being afraid,sad,or angry?

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amarang9 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

Doing work usually makes me forget about feeling sad, angry or afraid. But, eventually, you stop working. And although 'time heals all wounds,' I found the best way to deal with these feelings is not to try to ignore or forget them, but put them in perspective. If something has made me sad, I think about it in the broader context of my life. What parts of my life make me happy? What prospects for the future do I envision for myself that will make this sad event eventually seem trivial. Or, what can I do to use this emotion rather than let it use me? For example, musicians, writers and artists sometimes use tragedy to inspire art. Writing a song about something like a breakup or some other event is cathartic; it is essentially like talking it out with someone you trust: in this case, yourself. Of course, if it becomes popular, it might help other people. That's one of the really great things about music (and the arts). Engaging in a creative activity is rewarding in itself; so, if it also channels bad feelings into something good, it is all the more rewarding. There is a tendency to listen to music and kind of wallow in its melancholy, but to counter that, when listening to it, know that it was written because someone else was sad, angry or afraid. So, at the very least, you don't feel alone in your suffering. That sounds cliche but it's just very true. For me, things I do to get over something usually have to do with music or art. If that doesn't work, I talk to my friends and they listen and then either give me good advice or tell me to stop feeling sorry for myself (in a sarcastically nice way).

Ashley Kannan eNotes educator| Certified Educator

If the nature of the question is more of an open ended one, I would suggest that utilizing art at specific moments can help to evade the pain of being afraid, sad, or angry.  Immersing oneself in art can provide a temporary escape or some type of displacement of feelings which would allow perspective to return.  It is difficult to apply this to any other case other than the ones I have known, but being able to turn to literature or films at specific moments have allowed me to gain a sense of distance from the exact situation which is troublesome.  There are some situations where articulation is needed about the context, in general.  In these moments, finding someone reliable who can listen and offer counsel would be highly effective, as well.

readerofbooks eNotes educator| Certified Educator

That is an important and honest question. In my opinion, time does wonders. Sometimes when we are faced with something difficult, our emotions get the best of us. And for this reason we have a tendency to make the event or situation to be bigger than it really is. So, what might be a good idea is to do something that gives time to digest and think. We might get another perspective in this way. So, here are a few suggestions. Take a walk. This may help a lot. What I like doing is taking a nap or sleeping for a while. This gives me time and even some rest. How about watching a movie to get your mind off of things or meeting up with a friend?

pohnpei397 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

For me, sport has always been the thing that I can do that makes me forget about these types of emotion (or at least makes me forget about things in real life that make me afraid, sad, or angry.)

There is something, for me, about physical action and about the adrenaline that runs through my body during competition, that helps to get rid of negative emotions.  I certainly do not tend to think about my problems while I play and I often find that I have a better frame of mind after I have exerted myself in some sort of vigorous physical activity like that.

booksnmore eNotes educator| Certified Educator

Exercise never fails to change my mood. Even when it's drizzling outside, I force myself to take a jog down the street. I think it helps for a couple of reasons. The exercise makes my body happy ("runner's high" and all that...) but I also feel renewed by simply being in nature for a time. When the weather is really crummy and I'm forced to exercise indoors, it helps my mood, but not as much as when I'm outdoors. Gardening and hiking  seem to have a similar effect.

drmonica eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I agree with booksnmore that exercise is a great way to alter your mood. If the weather is not good, I sometimes do "mindless" chores, like vacuuming or cleaning a bathroom. Doing things that don't require lots of thought, but do require close attention, can help to relieve the focus from personal worries. These types of activities also require physical exertion, which can dissipate stress and alleviate anger.

M.P. Ossa eNotes educator| Certified Educator

Reading is definitely my tonic. Reaching out for a very salacious 19t century Victorian novel complete with royalty, Romanticism, cheating,murder, and mystery can take you anywhere.

sfg13165 | Student

Poetry always calmed me down, when I was angry, or sad. It takes you away from  your everyday life and you are in your own little world, where all your worries and troubles don't matter. I love writing Poetry, its can be medicine for your broken heart, a friend when you feel alone.

lisansophie | Student
What were the things you enjoyed doing that made you forget about being afraid,sad,or angry?

What were the things you enjoyed doing that made you forget about being afraid,sad,or angry?

  Sometimes it is the attempt to forget these feelings that makes them worse in the end.   I first try to look at what is making me feel this way and then try to find a positive spin on them.  If you can find even one positive outcome that can be helpful.  It's also good to express how you feel through writing, art, talking to a friend, etc.  If the feelings are just pushed aside you never really come to terms with why you were feeling them in the first place. 

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mrsd404 | Student

One thing I have found is that anger is never a feeling that comes on its own--there is always an underlying reason for getting to the emotion of "angry".  The trick is trying to figure out the underlying reason.  Something I've enjoyed doing is watching people around me and remembering how I feel when I was happy with them.  Thinking of these people in a better light helps me and I can manage an angry situation in a more mature manner. 

mkcapen1 | Student

I am trying to imagine if this is an assignment that you are to develop or just a curious question. However, I will do my best to respond.  When I was a young child I was put into a children's home.  I stayed in a very large old building that actually looked like a haunted mansion.  I was a child full of mischief so I would get into trouble.  However, child abuse was pretty much allowed back then.  In order to punish me the adults locked me into a huge creepy attic that encompassed the entire building top.  I could not see anything, but I could sense things moving about.  I was terrified so I went into fantasy imaging.  I would try and think about something I liked doing such as having a family with a mother and father, sisters and brothers.  I would play out all aspects of what a good family was like until I fell asleep.  The fantasy thoughts helped me to escape as well as find some joy in a bad situation.

One very significant method that helped me to overcome sadness was to give of myself towards others.  I would help older people sweep their porches or do kind little deeds.  Even today I try and continue to give more than I take.  It has helped me to find and feel more joy than sadness.