What are some examples of Romeo being emotionally immature in Romeo and Juliet?

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When doesn't Romeo act emotionally immature in Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet?

The first time that Romeo is mentioned in the play—after the brawl in the streets of Verona between the feuding families of the Capulets and the Montagues—Romeo's friend Benvolio and Romeo's father, Lord Capulet, compare notes about Romeo's recent behavior.

Benvolio says that he just saw Romeo that morning, walking alone in the woods, but when Benvolio approached him, Romeo "stole into the covert of the wood" (1.1.121).

Lord Montague tells Benvolio that Romeo has often been seen in those woods "with tears augmenting the fresh morning's dew" (1.1.128).

Neither of them knows the cause of Romeo's behavior, but as Romeo enters the scene, Benvolio tells Lord Capulet, "I'll know his grievance, or be much denied" (1.1.153).

Within a minute, Benvolio deduces that Romeo is in love, which is apparently not an uncommon reason for Romeo's lovelorn, forlorn behavior.

Benvolio asks Romeo for the name of the woman who is causing Romeo so much sadness, but Romeo won't tell Benvolio her name. "I do love a woman," Romeo says, and that's about all that Benvolio can get out Romeo, except for Romeo's lengthy, glowing description of the woman.

Her name is Rosaline. Benvolio must have squeezed her name out of Romeo between the first and second scenes, because by then Benvolio seems to know her name and everything else about her. When Romeo and Benvolio learn that the Capulets are having a feast that evening, Benvolio knows that "At this same ancient feast of Capulet's / Sups the fair Rosaline whom thou so lov'st" (1.2.86-87).

Romeo, Benvolio, and a few other Montagues attend the Capulet's feast uninvited, which is where Romeo falls out of love with Rosaline and in love at first sight with Juliet at precisely the same moment in a scene in which Romeo and Juliet have barely nineteen lines of dialogue.

When the feast is over, Romeo decides to risk death at the hands of the Capulets by scaling the wall into the Capulet's orchard so he can get another look at Juliet.

Within another few minutes, Romeo and Juliet decide to get married on the next day, even though their families are deadly enemies and they know almost nothing about each other, except that they're hopelessly in love with one another.

In time—a very short time—Romeo and Juliet go to see Friar Laurence, who is having a difficult time coming to grips with the fact that Romeo no longer loves Rosaline, with whom he was desperately in love just yesterday, and is going to marry Juliet, with whom he seems to be even more desperately in love today.

Nevertheless, Friar Laurence marries Romeo and Juliet (act 2, scene 6), and it isn't long before Romeo kills Tybalt, Juliet's cousin, and Romeo is banished from Verona by Prince Escalus (act 3, scene 1).

Romeo rushes to Friar Laurence's cell, and in what can only be described as an incredibly immature adolescent tantrum, Romeo throws himself on the floor, "blubbering and weeping, weeping and blubbering," as the Nurse says, and threatens to kill himself (act 3, scene 3).

Despite the fact that Romeo has been banished from Verona under pain of death, Romeo spends the night with his new wife—in Verona in her bedroom in the Capulet's home—and barely escapes from the balcony window before Lady Capulet comes into Juliet's room.

When Romeo next appears in the play, he's in Mantua, and Balthasar tells him that Juliet is dead. Romeo mourns Juliet about ten seconds before he decides to kill himself at her side in her tomb:

Well, Juliet, I will lie with thee to-night (5.1.36).

Romeo just happens to remember an apothecary with a shop nearby, where Romeo hopes to buy a vial of poison. Even though it's a holiday—a holiday which is not explained in this scene or anywhere else in the play—Romeo manages to rouse the Apothecary, who is reluctant to sell poison to Romeo because it's against Mantua law, and the punishment is death.

Nevertheless, Romeo prevails on the destitute Apothecary to sell him the poison, to which the apothecary responds,

My poverty but not my will consents. (5.1.78)

Romeo hurries to Juliet's tomb, where he confronts and kills Paris. Romeo drags Paris's body into the Capulet's tomb to fulfill Paris's final wish, then Romeo lies next to Juliet. Romeo wonders why Juliet looks like she's still alive, even though she's lying dead in the Capulet's tomb.

After a few overwrought lines to Juliet, Romeo drinks the vial of poison, and, "with a kiss," he dies (5.3.120).

This is the last thing that Romeo does in the play, and he has yet to do anything that wasn't emotionally immature—except, perhaps, when Romeo decided not to fight with Tybalt, but that was right before Romeo killed him anyway for killing Mercutio.

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Though Romeo's age is never given in Shakespeare's play he is probably around 18 or 19. In today's world 18 year-olds do not marry 13 year-olds, but during the 16th century, it was perfectly acceptable. We also know that he is old enough to be able to kill a man, as witnessed by his slaying of Tybalt in Act III. 

From the beginning, Romeo displays behavior that could be considered immature. Benvolio tells Romeo's father that he often sees Romeo alone in a grove of sycamores. Montague says in Act I, Scene 1,

Many a morning hath he there been seen,
With tears augmenting the fresh morning’s dew,
Adding to clouds more clouds with his deep sighs.
But all so soon as the all-cheering sun
Should in the farthest east begin to draw
The shady curtains from Aurora’s bed,
Away from light steals home my heavy son
And private in his chamber pens himself,
Shuts up his windows, locks fair daylight out,
And makes himself an artificial night.
Black and portentous must this humor prove,
Unless good counsel may the cause remove.
We find out that Romeo's depression is caused by his unrequited love for Rosaline, who spurns his advances and says she will live "chaste." Rather than accept this rejection and move on, Romeo dwells on the topic. Through a litany of oxymorons, Romeo complains to Benvolio Act I, Scene 1,
Why then, O brawling love, O loving hate,
O anything of nothing first create!
O heavy lightness, serious vanity,
Misshapen chaos of well-seeming forms,
Feather of lead, bright smoke, cold fire, sick health,
Still-waking sleep that is not what it is!
This love feel I, that feel no love in this.
Dost thou not laugh?
Of course, Romeo totally forgets Rosaline once he sees Juliet at Capulet's party. Later Friar Lawrence criticizes Romeo for falling in love with Juliet so quickly. He says in Act II, Scene 3,
Young men’s love then lies
Not truly in their hearts, but in their eyes.
Shakespeare wants us to believe Romeo is truly in love but, on the surface, we may see an immature young man who falls for the first pretty face he comes across. During the balcony scene, instead of taking a little time to get to know Juliet and consider the situation, Romeo leaps to a marriage proposal. For her part, Juliet is perfectly willing to wait, but, when she tries to adjourn to her bedroom he presses her for an admission of love and proposes.
They are married the very next day, even though Friar Lawrence warns Romeo to take things slow. The Friar says in Act II, Scene 6,
These violent delights have violent ends
And in their triumph die, like fire and powder,
Which, as they kiss, consume. The sweetest honey
Is loathsome in his own deliciousness
And in the taste confounds the appetite.
Therefore love moderately. Long love doth so.
Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow.
Romeo ignores the Friar's advice for the rest of his life. He is impetutous in everything he does. He ignores common sense, as well as the edict of the Prince, when he fights Tybalt to get revenge for the killing of Mercutio. Afterward he acts like a child as he whines to the Friar about being banished and unable to see Juliet. Romeo says in Act III, Scene 3,
’Tis torture and not mercy. Heaven is here
Where Juliet lives, and every cat and dog
And little mouse, every unworthy thing,
Live here in heaven and may look on her,
But Romeo may not.
In the final Act Romeo again exhibits his immaturity by plotting his own suicide after hearing of Juliet's death from Balthasar. Instead of confirming the news or checking with the Friar, Romeo launches himself into despair, procures poison, and rushes back to Verona to "lie with Juliet."
At almost every turn Romeo proves to be ill suited to handle the responsibility of love and marriage. He is impatient, prone to depression and willing to act on his slightest urge. Even though he is older he never acts with same level of courage and maturity which Juliet displays throughout the play.  
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