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What qualities does a good spouse need? Becoming a good wife or a husband is a life-long process.  My parents were married for 54 years before one of them passed away. I am not sure that either of them was extremely happy, but I know that neither would not have chosen anyone else.  I was married for 25 years and made so many mistakes that if I had tried I could not have made more.  Now, looking back, I would hope that I would have found these qualities: patience, strength, understanding, insight, and selflessness. 

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It is probably not about qualities, although the ones mentioned in the above post would undoubtedly help. It's mostly about commitment, which should be mutual. 

Marriage is a very serious thing, and a lasting marriage goes through many different stages as time passes. Having been happily married for thirty-eight years, with ups and downs -for those who tell you they've been blissfully happy all the time are either lying or suffer from serious scotoma- I'd say that a sense of humor is a most valuable asset. 

Life tries spouses in a variety of ways. True commitment is what helps them face painful situations, bringing them together closer through the support each partner can and will offer. On the other hand, many problems may be solved if both share a sense of humor to tone down dangerous but silly disagreements.

Anyway, what you call qualities may well be setbacks to other people. We are unique individuals. Generalization here simply does not work. You need to decide on what you value,...

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jess1999 | Student

I think a good spouse definitely needs to have patience . Everyone needs to have patience . The spouse also needs to be able to acknowledge that their partner is not perfect , and that they should be able to help each other with their flaws . They also need to be able to be loyal with each other and they have to learn to trust with each other . This is what I believe is the most important quality that a good spouse should have  .

rahulsk | Student

Common sense the main thing.

nikasho0100 | Student

PATIENCE.......

quantatanu | Student

Respect for your partner and understanding and intimacy of that level that you can sense just by watching your partner that he/she is not well and you need to support him/her emotionally... and you must share everything every bit of you and trusting each other and giving time and space.