In my opinion, the main theme of this poem is loss. The speaker has lost the love of his life and is going to be sad for the rest of his life.
I think that there are not a lot of ups and downs in this poem -- just one big up and one big down. The huge up is when they fall in love and she become his. He says their love is so great the angels are jealous of them.
But then she dies. And there surely cannot be much more of a down than that. So it's not exactly ups and downs of love. It's more like the "up" of being in love but then a big "down" of her dying.