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Love is definitely hard to define. There are different kinds. Familial love, love for family, is usually the first one we experience. Deep friendship is basically a kind of familiar love as well. Then there is romantic love, which involves passion at first, then becomes familial.
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I think the best way to define abstract terms is through personal experience.  That said, everyone's answer could be different.

My favorite definition of love (from teaching "definition" essays to 10th graders) is "putting others first by demonstrating a sacrifice."

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I believe that love has a different meaning for each person. I also think that love is not just a feeling but a complete experience that an individual goes through. There are also many different kinds of love such as romantic love, religious love, and platonic love.

According to psychological theories, love has three components. They are intimacy, commitment, and passion. Intimacy is familiarity and having a very close bond to someone. Commitment means that you are pledging your entire self to an individual. And then there is passion. Passion is an incredibly strong feeling for someone. You admire them with all of your heart.

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Well, this one probably takes the cake for the question or discussion with most posts.  Everyone is going to have a take on this particular item.  Part of what love has to consist of is a stronger feeling base and more authentic experience shared with an individual as opposed to the larger setting, in general.  I that there has to be some differentiation in feeling between the subject of one's love and others in the world.  If one is talking about the love that an individual experiences towards another, this is where the feelings have to be differentiated from others.  If the discussion is about a more universal love for all of humanity, then the discourse of love is one about a transcendent notion of the good, almost appealing to higher notions of the good in its expression.

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Good question! :)

In terms of sentiment, love is a bond or attachment that one person feels towards something or someone else. It is universally viewed as a romantic attachment, but in fact Christianity offers that there are in 4 types of love:

storge- affection ( στοργή) which is what you feel for your family, a strong bond altogether.

philios- friendship

eros- romance/sex

agape-charity.

CS Lewis's book "The Four Loves" aims to explain these feelings and categorizes them accordingly.

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That's a tricky question to answer! Love has long been the subject of philosophical, religious, and biological discussion. We can't see or touch love as an independent entity, so how do we study it? Is love a feeling, an action, or a hormonal process? Let's consider love from each of these positions.

First, what does love feel like? Love can be made up of or co-exist with many other feelings like affection, parental care, friendship, desire, happiness, even worry. Loving someone or something involves caring about that person's (or thing's) well-being. 

Which leads us to the second part-- the action of love. How is love enacted? Many actions can contribute to the development of love, its growth, and maintenance. This is perhaps the most difficult part of answering your question, because the way we act out love are very personal. To speak quite generally, love may be acted out through physical affection like a hug. But not all acts of love require physical contact. Wishing someone a good morning an be an act of love. Giving a gift can be an act of love. Cooking a meal for someone is a very primal act of love because it demonstrates care for a person's needs in life. Some of the ways we act out love are long-term, like marriage.

So, what's at the root of these feelings and actions? Oxytocin is often called the love hormone because it is a chemical released in the body which triggers the sort of "warm, fuzzy" feelings I described above. Our first encounter with oxytocin in life is when we our born, when we receive it through our umbilical cords and through breast-milk. This hormone helps both mother and baby to feel good and form an emotional bond, recognizing each other as a trigger for this feel-good hormone. Later in life, oxytocin is released during positive social interactions (like a hug or sharing a joke), intercourse, and even when we interact with our pets. When we grow to love someone, we prime ourselves to have a strong hormonal response to that person. 

In a way, love is a cyclical process of a feel-good hormonal response to certain actions or interactions, which prompts us to seek further positive actions and interactions! 

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Philosophers, psychologists, and theologians all bring different perspectives to the analysis of love. One of the complications is that as we do not have unmediated access to other people's minds, we do not know if the emotions they are experiencing that they describe as love are really similar to, much less the same as, the emotions we would describe as love.

The term "love" in English is rather a more blunt instrument than some other languages. For example, in theological context in ancient Greek, there are three types of love, agape (spiritual love translated as charitas in Latin), philia (intense friendship) and eros (sexual love). Another important distinction is between lust, a purely sexual impulse, and more complex emotions.

There is a tendency in contemporary popular culture to reduce all forms of love to sexual attraction, but that is, at best, reductionistic, ignoring the possibility of deep bonds of emotional affection between friends and family members or profound spiritual feelings. 

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