What lesson(s) do you feel Scout learned in this chapter about what it is to be a lady?i really need help . thanks
What chapter are you talking about? Is it the chapter about the missionary women? If so, Scout learns that although she is expected to become a lady by Aunt Alexandra, she may not really want to become a lady, unless she becomes the kind of lady that she admires, like Miss Maudie. Scout's experience with the missionary ladies teaches her that in order to become a lady, she must act sedate, wear a dress and white gloves, and learn how to pour tea without spilling it. These are things that Scout despises, of course, because she is a tomboy. She also learns, however, that the ladies of Maycomb do not represent a high degree of womanhood to which she wants to aspire. They are hypocrites hiding behind masks of Christianity without really practicing what Christianity teaches - love and respect of one's fellow man, regardless of race.
Miss Maudie, on the other hand, is an outspoken woman and although the other ladies tolerate her in spite of her strong opinions, Miss Maudie always has one eye on Scout to make sure she can shoot a sardonic comment Scout's way so that Scout can find the truth in the midst of the hypocrisy.
If this is not what you are looking for, please be more specific about where in the novel you are looking.