Importance Of Love
What is importance of love in your life?
In his novella, The Secret Sharer, Joseph Conrad wrote that "meaning depends upon sharing." Without another--be he/she a friend, a lover, a spouse--with whom to share one's joys, these joys are, indeed, mitigated. For, happiness is truly a twin and must have its partner to realize its meaning. The mirror of a loved one is what gives validation to our very being.
Without anyone, man is lonely and alienated and will die. Studies have shown from many years ago in orphanages that infants who were not held and cuddled, even though all their physical needs have been taken care of, died of no apparent physical cause. Those who received more attention from the workers than others also developed into well adjusted adults despite their being orphans. Time and time again, the theme of alienation runs through literary works, for it is at the heart of man's unhappiness and discontent. Indeed, what is the story of God's creation of Eve if not the testimony to man's need for another with whom to share his life?
Certainly, when "the world is too much with us," having the refuge of a loved one's arms and heart are the greatest of consolations and a source to recharge our fortitude to face again life's adversities. We simply cannot "go it alone," for, to use a title of Flannery O'Connor, "the heart is a lonely hunter" for love.
I agree that love is undeniably connected to happiness and contentment. That does not mean, however, that one has to experience what we think of as romantic love. To me, love means that one is willing to sacrifice for the good of another--that could be applied to familial love, patriotic love, friendship, etc. Each of knows how it makes us feel to care so much for someone else that you are willing to give up something that you want for that person's benefit. While it might be difficult in the moment to sacrifice, it in the end the relationship that you have with the person whom you love overshadows any negatives.
I think that Of Mice and Men clearly represents this idea. George tells Lennie that they are different from the other migrant workers because they have companionship with one another--a brotherly almost paternal love on George's part. At the novella's end, George shoots Lennie, an act that required tremedous sacrifice on George's part, but which allowed Lennie to avoid cruel punishment from Curley and others.
I agree with the above posts, & would also like to add that love for one's self must come before all. It sounds rather selfish when phrased that way, but no one can love another before they learn to love the person they've become. Confidence, self-esteem, pride in one's work, and contentment with one's own life must all be evident before one can open their heart to another.
I also agree with poster #4 in terms of the definition of love. I think romantic love is absolutely important, but not vital. Familial love is much more influential in a person's development, and can greatly affect one's personality. I also think a general "love for life" is important. This can be as simple as enjoying your job, or contributing to your community. There's a selfless implied with love that goes far beyond just one-on-one relationships; it can be a powerful force in a community or group as well.
In my opinion, love is absolutely essential for us to have a happy life. It is certainly that way for me.
I need to have the love of my wife and my children in order to be happy. I have been with my wife since we were both 18 and so I do not know what adult life is like without her love. Now that we have children, I have come to need to love them and be loved by them.
Having family to love me makes me feel confident in myself and it makes me feel more secure and less stressed. In this way, it is very important to my well-being.
Love matters. Love for God, for family, for friends, for self, and for others. As others have said, it's a vital component to contentment and well-being. For me, though, love only works if it compels me to action. I mean, it's nice to sit home in a rocker and be content and count my blessings; it's even nicer if I take that love and do something with it. Helping and serving and being with people multiples the love and returns it to me exponentially.
I believe that people need love in their lives to be happy as well. I can say that if I did not have the love of my family I certainly would not be a happy person. People show love in many different ways, some better than others. I think that it is very healthy when people are able to openly tell people close to them that they love each other. Unfortunately, not everyone is able to do this.