In Ender's Game, what do Ender's parents feel for him?
Ender's parents were indicated for smart children, and so the military monitored their children, looking for a specific blend of ruthlessness and compassion. Their first two children were on the two extremes, and so they were allowed to have a Third child. When speaking with Graff, Ender realizes that much of his life, including his conception, was planned:
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Another emotion that Ender’s parents feel about Ender is proud. They are proud of the fact that their children have tested to be so high that the government has come to them and asked them to have a third child in a society that is only allowed to have two children. They are also proud when Ender is actually accepted into the program, although it does not seem to be that in the book at the time, but the bottom line is it would be better for them to be proud of a child who is away serving in battle school, rather than ashamed to have a third child at home who was not considered “good enough” to be of a help to the military.