To All the Boys I've Loved Before

by Jenny Han
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What does To All the Boys I've Loved Before say about human nature?

To All the Boys I've Loved Before says a lot about issues central to human nature, teaching readers lessons about mixed emotions, jealousy, and dishonesty.

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Jenny Han's novel To All the Boys I've Loved Before teaches readers quite a bit about human nature, especially about the human tendency toward mixed emotions, jealousy, and honesty (or lack thereof).

As Margot gets ready to leave for Scotland for college, both she and her family experience mixed...

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Jenny Han's novel To All the Boys I've Loved Before teaches readers quite a bit about human nature, especially about the human tendency toward mixed emotions, jealousy, and honesty (or lack thereof).

As Margot gets ready to leave for Scotland for college, both she and her family experience mixed emotions. She breaks up with her boyfriend, Josh, out of the fear of carrying on a long distance relationship. Her father and sisters want Margot to be successful, but they worry about losing her, for she is the one who has kept everyone organized and the household running smoothly since the death of her mother a few years back. When Margot returns for Christmas break, she is upset that her family has continued their traditions without waiting for her.

Lara Jean also experiences mixed emotions, especially about Josh, for whom she has feelings. She wonders if she should pursue a relationship with his sister's ex-boyfriend. Then when her private love letters are sent around, Lara Jean pretends to be in a relationship with Peter to avoid weirdness with Josh, but this leads to further mixed emotions because she begins developing feelings for Peter yet still likes Josh.

All the mix-ups in love lead to plenty of jealousy, which is also common to human nature. Josh is jealous of Peter. Margot is jealous of Lara Jean because Josh kisses Lara Jean at Christmas. Kitty seems to be jealous of both her sisters because of their relationships, and in the end, she reveals that she is the one who sent out Lara Jean's love letters. Kitty also seems to have a crush on Peter.

Kitty's actions also introduce another difficulty in human nature, a lack of honesty. Kitty deliberately lies when she denies knowing anything about Lara Jean's letters. Further, Lara Jean and Peter are certainly not being honest in their fake relationship and its motives. Later, a nasty (and false) rumor gets started about Peter and Lara Jean, which Margot spreads to the girls' father without asking Lara Jean about it first to find out if it is true.

Indeed, as readers enjoy To All the Boys I've Loved Before, they learn plenty of lessons about human nature with all its mixed emotions, jealousy, and difficulties with honesty.

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