Holden's relationship with his family shows that Holden is emotionally unsettled. This is a microcosm of how Holden behaves with the world, in general. On one hand, he cannot be the son that his parents envision. While he calls them "grand people," it is clear that he cannot be the son that they think him to be and he is unable to emotionally connect with them. He admires his brother, D.B., in terms of his writing, but Holden also feels that D.B. has sold out in becoming a script writer for Hollywood. The fact that Holden feels that his brother has "prostituted" himself for money is another reflection of how unsettled he is towards his family. Holden experiences mourning over Allie's death and his inability to come to terms with this is another level of being unsettled. The only real certainty that Holden articulates is the love he has towards Phoebe. This is clear and distinct, just as Holden's hatred for phonies in the world is clear. Holden's anger towards phoniness is the countervailing force to his love for Phoebe. Phoebe represents the redemption and restoration that Holden sees in the world. In his love for Phoebe, Holden displays the love he holds for his own promises of what can be as opposed to what is.
Holden's relationship with his family is complex. There are layers where there is hurt and pain, and other planes where there is resentment and anger. Finally, there are experiences in which there is love and protection. This reservoir of intense and complex emotions that form the relationship with his family shows that Holden is capable of many different emotions, some of which conflict with one another. There is a lack of being settled in Holden's relationship with his family which is reflective of Holden's feelings towards the world. The lack of emotional clarity in his family shows how these experiences are mirrored with the emotional experiences he has with the outside world.