In Pride and Prejudice, what does Elizabeth insist upon before her visit to Pemeberley?
Rightly believing that her presence at Pemberley could only give the wrong impression if she were seen there by Mr. Darcy, especially as she would be in company with her Aunt and Uncle Gardener who work for their income, Elizabeth does her best to quietly insist that they ascertain whether Mr. Darcy is at home or away. It is critical to Elizabeth that she use the utmost discretion and subtlety while making Darcy's absence a condition of visiting Pemberley because she must not awaken any curiosity in her Aunt's or Uncle's mind as to the nature of her relationship with Darcy at Rosings--she surely does not want them to know that Darcy proposed marriage and that she turned him down and that she now possess information to make her regret her bad judgement and misunderstandings. Therefore, Elizabeth's "insistence" is mild-mannered and of a reasoning quality rather than insistence according to its definition of earnest, firm, emphatic assertion... . Insist is what Elizabeth does not want to do even while delicately persuade--and double-check Darcy's absence--is what Elizabeth must do.