When Cherry Valance and her friend Marcia go to the movies, they are not expecting to hang out with Greasers. And Ponyboy and Johnny aren't expecting to get to know Socs, but that's what happens.
As they talk, they come to believe that there aren't that many differences. Ponyboy says they are the same, but Cherry disagrees. She says that Greasers live life more fully -- that they feel things and have emotions. She says Socs don't. She talks about how she'll just say stuff to her girlfriends to be talking, but she doesn't really believe what she's saying and she doesn't really feel things deeply the way Greasers do.
For more details, look at the end of Chapter 2 and the beginning of Chapter 3.
Cherry tries to explain to Ponyboy that the Socs have problems, too, in the S. E. Hinton teen novel The Outsiders. She tells Pony that even though the greasers think the Socs have everything going for them, it's not true. Greasers are more emotional; Socs are
"cool to the point of not feeling anything... We're always going and going and going, and never asking where."
Cherry goes on to tell Ponyboy that "we have problems you've never even heard of... Things are rough all over." When she tell Pony about Bob, she says that he just wanted to be told no sometime. Socs had too much money, too much freedom, and too few boundaries.
Cherry Valance in the book "The Outsiders" describes the Socs as being caught up in the rat race. She says they are always going and going. Yet, they never knew where. She insinuates that they have more than they ever wanted. Because of having so much they find themselves looking for that something that is missing.
She also explains that Socs are not allowed to lose their cool. They live behind a wall of aloofness never letting their real selves show. They are impersonal. She goes on to explain that it is the way they live and act that separates the Socs from the Greasers.
This is when Pony Boy says:
"That's why we're separated, "I said. "Is not money, it's feeling-you don't feel anything and we feel too violently."(38) Chapter 3
She says things are all tough all over. Socs aren't having a better life than Greasers.
Pony Boy and Johnny meet Cherry and her friend while at the drive in movies. They get to know each other a bit. As they are comparing each others lives Pony Boy learns that the Socs have problems just like Greasers have problems. However, Cheery tells Pony Boy that the problem is that the Socs don't feel enough and the Greasers feel too deeply.
This is Pony Boy's first time really having an type of interaction with a Soc that is not negative. Up until this meeting with Cherry, he ahs only has seen the Socs as his enemy.