Both societies have very strict social conventions and serious consequences for not following them. Although Victorians did not assign mates as they do in the Community, it was common for parents to arrange marriages for their children without their children’s consent, or to push them into marriages. Loveless marriages, and loveless relationships with children, were common.
Another commonality between the community and Victorian England is the focus on limiting emotions. In Jonas’s world, conforming is everything. The same is true for Victorian England. Keeping ones emotions to oneself was key. In each case the objective was to control people’s behavior so as not to insult of offend anyone, or make anyone uncomfortable.