What are the most significant obstacles in Mrs. Bentley's relationship with Philip? Include quotes from the book.

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As for Me and My House presents the story of the Bentley’s troubled marriage. The problems they experience stem from both partners’ characteristics as well as the environment in which they live. Philip is a minister who is sincere in his calling but has not been able to achieve a...

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As for Me and My House presents the story of the Bentley’s troubled marriage. The problems they experience stem from both partners’ characteristics as well as the environment in which they live. Philip is a minister who is sincere in his calling but has not been able to achieve a permanent position. His earnings are meager, and his wife feels the pinch of their poverty in their old clothes and limited diet. “We wear threadbare clothes, eat rice and porridge by the ladleful….”

The need to pull up stakes and move frequently has made him “tired” and “heartsick,” and causes a strain in their marriage, as it makes his wife feel more like his mother. She (as the first-person narrator) says, “I get impatient being just his wife, and start in trying to mother him.” A related issue is that Philip has become withdrawn and antisocial so they see few other people other than those who need his help as a pastor. “Philip these last years grows more and more to himself. At times I find even myself an outsider.”

It seems for a while that fostering a boy will bring them together, but when he is removed from their home, the rift grows even deeper. His wife’s belief that Philip has an affair with a younger woman, Judith, almost breaks up the marriage.

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