Sometime in the late 1960 and early 1970s, Designer Brand Names became the aspired and (seemingly) necessary accompaniment to the life of ordinary working class Americans, who were now getting posh Vidal Sassoon hair cuts and wearing jeans that said something much more that Levi and frequenting lavish vacation spots once reserved for the famous and wealth. This social status requirement of displaying signs of pomp that had previously attached only to the upper social circles also affected weddings and receptions radically changing their tone and objective. This was helped along by Hollywood movies that "reflected life" and thereby led life further along, helped out from time to time by lines such as Renee Zellweger's innocent question "Can this be MY day?" in The Bachelor (1999), with Chris O'Donnell.
As a result, weddings of average working class people have metamorphosed into something new and different from what they were in previous decades. Hence the contemporary question about monster, slightly irrational weddings--and the new phenomenon of "Bridzillas" who echo Renee Zellweger to heavens: "This is supposed to be MY day!!!" Me? I advocate weddings that join the families and friends of a couple together to witness their oaths of love and devotion to each other. The size of the wedding, then is determined by the financial ability to host loved ones, in a descending order of importance, at the wed-ding of two true hearts. The size of the wedding party, then, would be similarly decided by financial ability to honor your friends by inviting them to attend you as your legal witnesses at your wed-ding ceremony. If you have much wealth, then invite the world and regale yourself with attendants and ladies-in-waiting. If you're a working person from a working family, look at your budget.