A Tricky Predicament A week ago, we were given this complicated question in Social Studies. We had to answer it in class and then discuss it. I thought it would be interesting to hear all of your...
A week ago, we were given this complicated question in Social Studies. We had to answer it in class and then discuss it. I thought it would be interesting to hear all of your responses.
Imagine you're on Facebook. Your best friend created a status post stating 'Like this and I'll write a paragraph about you'. You 'Like' this post, and soon later you find this (from your best friend) on your wall:
'You're incredibly random, kind and you're hilarious and you have an arranged marriage with one of my best friends! Now, because I consider that you're a brother of mine, does that mean the person will become my brother/sister in law?'
Your task is to find an appropriate way to respond to this post, whether it be humorous or ironic etc. You are not allowed to delete the post or hide it in any way. (Note: you do not actually have an arranged marraige with the person.)
I like post 3's comment about how my spouse would react to find out I had an arranged marriage to someone else. Perhaps I woud respond with some humorous confirmation of the so-called marriage, finding some method of communicating to all who read the first message and my response that the first method is not accurate or truthful.
Beyond that, I would probably seriously question whether or not I wanted to continue with this person as my "best friend." I don't think I would be able to appreciate that type of humor in my friends.
My response would most likely be to point out the misunderstanding and try to better identify myself to the person. "This is "Mr. X from Light City. Are you sure you've got the right person? I went to King's Jr. High..."
I see no real trouble in keeping the post up if most of my friends will recognize the mistake and know that I am not arranged to be married to anyone. I would not engage with the confusing details of post.
This scenario is exactly why I dislike Facebook. Things on the site (postings and "likes") are so utterly random that it throws me off.
As for how would I reply? I think that I would post something like the following:
If we are related because of this marriage, I am getting a divorce. I don't want to be related to anyone who has nothing better to do than arrange fake marriages.
I don't live in a place where anyone has arranged marriages, so I think maybe I don't understand the real dynamics of this situation. For me, I think I would go with trying to take it lightly. I'd say something like "no, it means I'll be your daddy." But I really don't think I probably understand this as well as I should.
As its your best friend that has posted this and it says "you have an arranged marriage with one of my best friends," perhaps you could say "Wow, I'm arranged to be married to me, I'm wondering if the Best Man and Father of the bride can use the same speech, would like to know what you think."
Thinking about this from a teenage perspective (the students I teach), I would imagine one of my students would respond with something like "It's awesome that you are best friends with your mom!"... implying that you are arranged to be married to his mother and soon to be his father.
I would probably respond with some kind of question about how this person knows things before I do. "wow are you psychic? I didn't know I was arranged to be married. MAybe I should ask around before I go on that date on Friday." or something to that effect.
I'm not sure how I would respond, other than to ask why I am arranged to marry the person. Perhaps I would point out how disconcerting my wife would be to find out I was arranged to marry someone.