This guy likes me, but he is way older than me, He is a nice guy, what should I do? He's asked me out a couple of times.

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I would ask myself the question: "Why would a guy who is ____ years old show interest in a girl in 10th grade?" I'm sure that you have some very nice qualities. But he could find women his age with good qualities. So why is he looking for someone younger?...

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I would ask myself the question: "Why would a guy who is ____ years old show interest in a girl in 10th grade?" I'm sure that you have some very nice qualities. But he could find women his age with good qualities. So why is he looking for someone younger? What advantages are there for him?

At your age, a few years age difference means a lot, not just in terms of maturity but in terms of "place in life." A high school student is (usually) still living at home, dependent on parents...really a "child." (Albeit a big child! ;)  But once you're out of high school, society does in many ways view you as an adult.

It's very mature of YOU to be asking the question.

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It seems to me that it depends a lot on how old the two of you are.

Under the picture, it says you're in 10th grade.  So that makes you what -- 16 or about to be 16?  How much older is he? Is he college age?  Older than that?  35?  I had one of my HS students run away with a guy who was 35 once...

Then you need to think about how you feel about him.  Do you have any interest?  If not, then make it plain to him that you don't want to go out with him.  Use age as an excuse if you don't want to hurt his feelings.

Seems to me you need to be careful here, especially if he's a lot older than you.  I'd be wondering why a guy that age would be looking at someone your age for romance.  It just seems suspicious.

Good luck...

 

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