This guy likes me, but he is way older than me, He is a nice guy, what should I do? He's asked me out a couple of times.

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pohnpei397 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

It seems to me that it depends a lot on how old the two of you are.

Under the picture, it says you're in 10th grade.  So that makes you what -- 16 or about to be 16?  How much older is he? Is he college age?  Older than that?  35?  I had one of my HS students run away with a guy who was 35 once...

Then you need to think about how you feel about him.  Do you have any interest?  If not, then make it plain to him that you don't want to go out with him.  Use age as an excuse if you don't want to hurt his feelings.

Seems to me you need to be careful here, especially if he's a lot older than you.  I'd be wondering why a guy that age would be looking at someone your age for romance.  It just seems suspicious.

Good luck...


booksnmore eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I would ask myself the question: "Why would a guy who is ____ years old show interest in a girl in 10th grade?" I'm sure that you have some very nice qualities. But he could find women his age with good qualities. So why is he looking for someone younger? What advantages are there for him?

At your age, a few years age difference means a lot, not just in terms of maturity but in terms of "place in life." A high school student is (usually) still living at home, dependent on parents...really a "child." (Albeit a big child! ;)  But once you're out of high school, society does in many ways view you as an adult.

It's very mature of YOU to be asking the question.

pdekker | Student

Like comment number two, it does matter how old you and him are, because you probably know that if you are younger then 16 and he is older then 16 that it is illigal for you two to be together. And I understand that you like him but honestly, if you really want to be together with him, you need to do a little bit more then just LIKE him. And youre not that old, so its not like you wont meet any other guys. Try waiting a little. If he really likes you, he will wait for you, but if he doesnt he will give up.

Good, luck, and I hope this helps, although its a little bit late :P

sfg13165 | Student

The guy is 18 or 19 and I have used age as an excuse, but he's still says age doesn't mean a thing, but I'm about to be 16, on Dec. 26, 09 and I really don't know what to say to him now. It's kind or weird because both of his cousins liked me to. I talked to one of his cousin's because they were my age. But i'm still lost, I like him but it's just crazy