“They are right; for man, to man so oft unjust, Is always so to women; one sole bond Awaits them, treachery is all their trust; Taught to conceal, their bursting hearts despond Over their idol,...
“They are right; for man, to man so oft unjust,
Is always so to women; one sole bond
Awaits them, treachery is all their trust;
Taught to conceal, their bursting hearts despond
Over their idol, till some wealthier lust
Buys them in marriage—and what rests beyond?
A thankless husband, next a faithless lover,
Then dressing, nursing, praying, and all’s over.”
This is stanza 200 of Canto II of Lord Byron’s Don Juan and is part of a series of stanzas on the love of women. Thematically, why is this canto thematically significant to Byron’s narrative of Juan and Haidee? In what way is this stanza representative of Byron’s literary technique throughout Don Juan?
Byron is decrying the limited choices that women have in life in this stanza and indeed throughout the poem. A woman must put up with a man's "injustices" (drunkenness, unfaithfulness, etc) because their "sole bond" is marriage. A woman of any kind of means had few choices. It was not like they could go out and get a job and support themselves. For the majority of women, all they could really count on is that their husbands would betray them, in some or many ways.
So they learn to "conceal" their desires, even as they await the man who "buys" them in marriage. The woman may become "treacherous," thinking that another man, not her husband, will be a better bet. Sadly, the lover too will eventually seek another woman and betray her as well. At the end of her life, the woman will end up "nursing" her unfaithful and callous husband, until she or he dies. It's a vicious cycle that the protagonist, Don Juan, and his many lovers, does nothing to quell.
You can see how Don Juan's relationship with Haidee would fit into this cycle. While the two seem to share a greater connection than Don Juan had previously enjoyed, Haidee is still justifiably afraid of her father. So she "conceals" her desire for Don Juan. She is still, in most senses, her father's "property."
Haidee could lust after Don Juan, only to marry him, but, if history is any judge, eventually he will cheat on her too. If she sticks around until the end of his life, then she will likely care for him in his declining years til he, or she, passes away.