Are teachers legally allowed to say "didn't your parents teach you any manners?"
BACK STORY: I was getting out of gym class and was walking in the locker room heading out to lunch, but this teacher (or someone apart of the school staff) was walking with a box. So she was walking in a small hallway (Enough that 2 people could walk through it as the same time). So I was walking towards the hallway and she was walking towards me (we were next to each other passing though). I shifted to the other side of the medium sized hallway so she would have more space to pass. INSTEAD she said 'no no no' (with some strange attitude) and I thought maybe she wants me to switch to the other side.. so I did. But then she impolitely yelled "Don't you see I have a box? Didn't your parents teach you any manners?" And in a rude attitude. I swear I didn't even bump into her. I was just about to say sorry, but she gave me this attitude and I was beyond shocked. I wanted to say something and I didn't. I don't understand why she had to bring my parents into this. If she insulted me i'd take it and shrug it off but I feel so disrespected that she indirectly called me mannerless? Are teachers allowed to be this rude? I don't want to make this a big deal but this made me very upset.
I GO TO A SCHOOL IN FAIRFAX COUNTY, VIRGINIA!
AND... I was going to say sorry, but I definitely know for a fact that I didn't deserve that rude comment. The attitude she said it in was so offensive and startling. I told my other friends and they said she was being rude too while passing by.
Please give me some helpful tips and pointers! :) thanks everyone
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There are no laws against that teacher’s behavior because it is very hard to write laws or rules that would exactly define what sorts of comments are and are not rude. Imagine, for example, that you had to write rules about how teachers could behave towards students. How would you write them in such a way as to cover every situation imaginable?
For better or for worse, teachers are supposed to help teach students how to behave in various life situations. This is particularly true in middle school (you do not mention what grade you are in) but it applies in high school to some degree as well. They are supposed to help students understand when their behavior is rude. This means that it is part of the teacher’s job to correct you if they think you are acting improperly.
Of course, when the teacher is doing that, she is supposed to be modeling good behavior herself. Teachers are taught to try not to escalate situations and to try not to get in students’ faces (see the link below). Assuming that this incident happened just the way you say it did, this teacher acted in an unprofessional way.
The only thing I can say in the teacher’s defense is that teachers often end up having to spend much of their day correcting student behaviors that really are bad. They get worn down and frustrated and can be easily irritated. This is not an excuse, it is just an explanation. Teachers, almost without exception, really do try to get it right all the time. However, it is hard to do.
The experience that you had sounds very unpleasant. It is sad that it happened and I would hope that the teacher realizes that she made a mistake. Sadly, teachers are easily capable of making mistakes. What she did was unprofessional, but it was not illegal because it would be hard to write rules that would cover all situations.
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