Don’t Settle For Safe: Embracing the Uncomfortable to Become Unstoppable is an empowering book by public speaker and author Sara Jakes Roberts. Roberts encourages readers to work through the challenges in their lives to embrace a happier future.
In the book, Roberts draws on her own experiences to show readers that she understands what it can feel like to experience pain, pressure, and hopelessness. The daughter of a bishop, Roberts felt intense pressure from a young age. She recounts how she became pregnant at fourteen years old and married at nineteen. She then got divorced at twenty-two. Despite all of these hardships and responsibilities, she held on to her faith in God and tells her story to encourage women to continue believing in God even when they feel lost in life.
One of her main points in this book is to not look back on the past with a negative mindset. Roberts believes that viewing one’s history with positivity is the key to moving on from it and looking to the future. “Pain,” she says, “touches every life, but if you’re open, it will also teach you a valuable life lesson.” Roberts also emphasizes the importance of working hard to stop self-destructive behaviors. She recognizes that building a future can be scary, but she ultimately wants women to lean in to their fear to discover all of the possible paths they can take in life. According to Roberts, if someone stays in a bad situation forever just because they are afraid of change, they might miss out on many wonderful things that God has in store for them.
Roberts organizes the book in a logical, accessible manner that helps readers understand the need to make changes and then how to go about it. For instance, early on she explains the importance of identifying your “weeds,” negative things like insecurity and hopelessness that can hold people back. She also teaches readers how to recognize the patterns of destructive behavior in their life and how to identify people in their lives that might not have their best interests at heart. Once she has established this foundation about knowing oneself, she then goes on to explain the importance of finding intimacy with God in order to embrace the fear of the unknown.