In sociology, when someone has gone through divorce what kind of life enhancing factors might be present in his/her life and what life depleting factors might be present? How might the balance between the two affect his or her recovery?
The factors that enhance a person going through a divorce are a strong support system in friends and family not associated with the spouse and a healthy relationship with the spouse. Depleting factors would include isolation and lack of resources.
A person who is going to do well after a divorce is one who has friends and family other than the spouse’s to rely on. In other words, the person needs a support system to act as a kind of safety net. These people will be someone to talk to, provide money or a place to live after the divorce, and even a shoulder to cry on. A divorce is a very destabilizing life event, so the more other stable factors in the person’s life, the better. Imagine if the only friends you had were your spouse’s friends. After the divorce, who would you hang out with? What if family gatherings were always at the spouse’s house? Having your own friends and family to rely on is very important.
On the other hand, imagine that you have no job and you get divorced. Let’s say you have no place to live, no friends, and no family. You could be homeless and penniless. Depleting factors such as social isolation and a lack of skill sets such as having no employability can make a person very vulnerable after a divorce. Also, if a person does not have a safety net of friends and family to rely on, depression can set in and recovery can be very difficult for the person emotionally.
If a person has some positive and some negative elements going on, and at this point you say “her,” so we will assume it is a woman, she will need to leverage the positive things in her life. For example, she can use her safety net of friends and family, if she has one, to help her network and get a job. Even if she has never had a job before because she has relied on her husband, she can use her friends and family to help her get one. If the opposite is true, and she has a job but no friends, she can use her job to make friends, becoming friendlier with her coworkers and becoming more social at work. She will need to focus herself in new areas, and leave her old social circle behind. Either way, she will have to use the good to fight the bad.