In Romeo and Juliet, why is Romeo not in love with Rosaline or Juliet? Why is it just infatuation?

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It seems to me that we can assume that Romeo is not truly in love with Rosaline because his feelings for her vanish immediately when he sees Juliet. If he really, genuinely loved Rosaline, then he would not be able to develop feelings for Juliet so quickly. It would take some time for his feelings of love to resolve before he could love someone else. This is precisely what Friar Lawrence seems to refer to when he chastises Romeo, saying,

Young men's love then lies
Not truly in their hearts, but in their eyes. (2.3.71-72)

The friar essentially implies that Romeo did not truly love Rosaline but lusted after her only, experiencing feelings for her because he wanted to sleep with her and not because he actually felt love. One could charge Romeo with a similar accusation regarding Juliet. Is it possible that he could truly fall in love with her the first time he sees her? Of course, people often refer to the concept of love at first sight, but is it really love, or something else that they feel? Is this lust too? For those who doubt that Romeo truly loves Juliet, I think this line of reasoning is the most likely explanation.

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Shakespeare'sRomeo and Julietis about young love. That is one of the things that is so touching about the play, especially to older people. It seems true enough that Romeo is fickle and ready to fall in love with any pretty girl, whereas Juliet is terribly young and naive about love. But that is the way young love is: both the boy and the girl are ready to give their hearts away without reservations, making lifelong commitments on the basis of a very short acquaintance. It is only when people are young that they can do that--at least according to Shakespeare's view as presented in this play. Allthough the feelings of the two young people may be misguided, the feelings are still real enough. The play is more about young love--"that first fine careless rapture"--than about two specific individuals whose parents didn't like each other. The story had to end with the deaths of the two young lovers because that sort of love is terribly fragile and doesn't last. Maybe it burns itself out with its own heat.

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