"I'll thy assistant be;
For this alliance may so happy prove
To turn your households’ rancour to pure love."(95)
Romeo asks Friar Lawrence to marry Juliet and him even though their families are enemies. The Friar is confused at first and against the idea. He asks Romeo what happened to his professed love for Rosaline. Romeo finally convinces the Friar to agree to wed the two young lovers in the hopes that their love for each other, and their marriage, would end the hatred the two families feel toward each other.
Romeo goes and asks Friar Laurence to marry him and Juliet. At first Friar Laurence is confused to why Romeo wants to marry Juliet. He thinks Romeo is still in love with Rosaline. He questions Romeo about this, but Romeo convinces the friar that he and Juliet are truly in love, so the friar agrees to marry them.
Friar Laurence agrees to marry the two young lovers, because he believes that it will cause an end to the grudge between the two families. The Montagues and the Capulets have hated each other for some time. When Romeo and Juliet fall in love with each other, Friar Laurence believes this is the answer for there to be peace within the two families. Friar Laurence wants both of the families to be at peace with each other, and he thinks this could be the perfect way for this to be accomplished, so he goes ahead and marries them.
When Friar Laurence learns of the death of Tybalt at the hands of Romeo, he is the one who comes up with the plan for Juliet to drink the potion to make it look like she has died, so he can have time to get to Romeo and tell him of the plan. Of course, this plan backfires, because his message does not get to Romeo in time. In an ironic twist, the death of the two could bring the families together like the marriage should have. Friar Laurence has a big hand in both of the most important decisions of the entire play.
In Act 2, Scene 3, Romeo asks Friar Laurence to secretly marry Juliet and him. At first, the friar does not want to perform the wedding—rightly so, too, because the day before Romeo had told Friar Laurence how sick he was over the fact that his dear Rosaline would rather be celibate than be with Romeo.
Thou and these woes were all for Rosaline:
And art thou changed?
Romeo convinces the friar that he is no longer in love with Rosaline, because he is very, truly in love with Juliet.
Then plainly know my heart's dear love is set
On the fair daughter of rich Capulet:
As mine on hers, so hers is set on mine;
And all combined, save what thou must combine
By holy marriage
Friar Laurence does then agree to perform the secret wedding ceremony for Romeo and Juliet. What is interesting about the friar's agreement is his reason for performing the marriage ceremony. He never once says that he will do it because Romeo and Juliet are so in love with each other. Friar Laurence agrees to marry the two star crossed lovers because he thinks that the marriage will perhaps end the feud between the Montagues and the Capulets.
But come, young waverer, come, go with me,
In one respect I'll thy assistant be;
For this alliance may so happy prove,
To turn your households' rancour to pure love.
I have a hard time faulting the friar. His intentions are well placed. His plan makes sense. But as Robert Burns wrote in "To a Mouse,"
“the best laid plans of mice and men often go awry.”
And for sure did Friar Laurence's plan go awry.
The Friar agrees to marry them becasuse he thinks that it will solve the problems between the Montagues and the Capulets, seeing how Romeo is a Montague and Juliet a capulet.
cause they helped him overcome his fear